Hiya Tony,
I too have found it interesting how men have contended with the life/work balance aspect post diagnosis. As expected the variants are extensive. Here's a condensed version of my story. I honestly felt utterly convinced that my longevity was guaranteed because the genetics,lifestyle,fitness and overall attitude were in place. At 57 years old, after 10 years working at British Coal followed by over 30 years in the NHS, I retired.I then started doing gardens for relatives which escalated rapidly into working 4/5 days a week. I didn't want this amount of commitment but nevertheless enjoyed it...i.e starting more or less what time I wanted, Ken Bruce's pop quiz on in the van,fresh air,the connected feeling you get when working with nature, and most importantly a relaxed,contented outlook.Then within a year I was diagnosed with PCa in early 2015. We opted for RP from which I recovered well and quickly recommenced gardening.However, my attitude changed. A sort of low level resentment surfaced and I began thinking that I should be doing other things such as seeing more of my grandchildren,going on holidays,days out, afternoons in the pub,sitting in my own garden,or just not doing anything.Despite this,I continued gardening. But ,within the last few weeks I've decided to jack it in. I go for my 15th( of 20 ) SRT session this afternoon, and this has fully concreted my decision. Sometimes I decry my late fathers ridiculously fervent work ethic that has over the years somehow has instilled in me,thankfully to a much lesser degree.I always try to resist saying 'we are all different ' but fact is we are Tony,aren't we,which I have found really evident during the open conversations that are taking place in the Radiotherapy waiting room.All the very best to everyone affected by PCa and the decisions we have to make.
Cheers mate,take care,
Paul