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The surgeon who was supposed to operate on me is there but due to a farcical mix up and zero communication I ended up with a different surgeon on the day. I only found out an hour before the op and was asked if I still wanted to go ahead or wait. Given the other surgeon had done hundreds of laparoscopic radical prostatectomies and his results were good I decided I couldn’t wait another few weeks and went ahead.
Given my cancer recurred a year later despite negative margins I have tortured myself since.
Would things be different I.e. better if I had waited those few weeks.
I have lost a lot of sleep over that even although there’s nothing I can do about it.
I complained to the heal authority and the health minister and got a sort of apology but no real appreciation of how mix ups/lack of communication affect people.
I am sad to hear that you are struggling with your situation. You. No one. Will ever know, what might have been. So. No, Zero point beating yourself up about it. I don't say this glibly or lightly, I was in a similar position that you were in at the point of the op confronting and regarding the op and the scalpel wielder.
I had a similar situation to you in that, on the day of my scheduled Robotic Procedure at the Royal Reading a totally new random surgeon introduced himself to me as my future. I had met a potential Mister Scalpel at my PRE-op. On the day off my OP, I met a new Mister. Scalpel.
Never met him before. Never heard of him before. But? I went for it with him.
Long story short? Worked for me. Surgery, Robotic worked for me. Easily though might not have done? Sad fact, our outcomes is/are so much down to chance.
The point is that on the best information you had at the time, you made your choice. And with the surgeon presenting on that morning, you made your choice. As I did.
You may read of those who made a decision on the information available. Then, regretted it. But, that regret was based on fresh information that they had not had earlier.
You, and I, have had to go with it. If, and its a big "if", you had had your preferred surgeon, or the surgeon with the best record in the land, there's no guarantee that anything might have turned out better for you or for me. Even the best Surgeon has an off day.
I wish you all the best. But your emotional battle is only one that you can overcome. Took me ma an age before I beat mine.