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Getting ready for robotic surgery

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Posted 22 Mar 2016 at 18:18
Hi shelle glad all seems to be going well for you both, good luck at nxt appointment. We have first psa appointment on Thursday with consultant so just hoping for good news. Jx
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Posted 22 Mar 2016 at 19:47
Hi Shelle

Just caught up with your news and wanted to say how very pleased I am for you both. Hope your meeting goes well and that the results are favourable. Your news reminds of the poem "Sometimes" by Sheenagh Pugh

"Sometimes things don't after all go from bad to worse. Some years muscadel faces down the frost, green thrives, the crops don't fail, sometimes a man aims high and all goes well."

May it continue to happen for you both.

Kevan

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Posted 27 Jun 2016 at 12:00

Hiya everyone, sorry it’s been a while Steve has had a good result from his consultant psa is really good ( ,no trace ) we have discussed different methods for our sex life to return back, we have agreed on stronger tablets, one to be taken an hour before bed, we also discussed the injections that Steve was not too keen on. any advice would be really appreciated, also Steve is experiencing feeling low we have discussed this is expected after the surgery, He is finding it a bit difficult as he is a very positive man about everything, any advice would be appreciated.

Thanks Michelle

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Posted 27 Jun 2016 at 12:42

Michelle, it might seem a long time to your husband in terms of weeks but really, in terms of recovery it isn't.

His whole body has undergone trauma. Perhaps the fact that the initial results ~(incontinence etc) were so good has lulled him into a false sense of security.

Emotionally, now it's done and dusted and he no longer has to concentrate on the lead up to the op and the "what ifs" it'sleft him time to reflect on how his life has changed.

The fact that you both talk, especially about the important things like sharing a sex life, is brilliant.

Just give him time and have patience with him.

I'm sure that the others who have gone through robotic surgery will be along with their advice, much more relevant than mine anyway.

We can't control the winds - but we can adjust our sails
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Posted 27 Jun 2016 at 12:56

Hi Michelle
Firstly I'm glad his results have come back clear. That's obviously one thing less off your mind. The feeling and actuality of impotence is very very draining and affects each man differently depending partly on how they were pre surgery. I'm a year on exactly and rue the day I agreed to become impotent. It eats away at me just like a different sort of cancer. But if you can both talk and try to laugh and steer yourselves on an ED journey together and use your nurse /gp things can actually turn out ok in the bedroom. My only sure results were by using injection , but the side effects for me have become more or less intolerable , and permanent scarring also. My only route now is Cialis and pump and rings but even that fails me regularly , leading to quite a depression and breakdown and busting with the frustration of it all. It makes me feel a failure and unmanly and totally incapacitated. Good days and bad. There's so much more in life than rumpton, except when you are trying and failing at it. I hope you stay good and close and communicate. Show him you love him and admire him and fancy him any way you can , as he's feeling broken. Look after yourself too and keep posting
Chris

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Posted 15 Aug 2016 at 17:21

Hi Kevan.  Just found your report about having laparoscopic prostatectomy and hernia repair at the same time.  

I am in need of both,  but  am in discussion with the consultant about the advisability and possibility of doing both at once.  At this stage, I am all for it.  Consultant seems to think it depends on which surgeon will be on duty on the day.

What were the implications for your recovery of having both done at the same time?  Is there a "down" side?

Great to hear that you have recovered well.

Ian

Edited by member 15 Aug 2016 at 17:23  | Reason: Not specified

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Posted 15 Aug 2016 at 18:19
Hi Ian

From my point of view there were no particular problems. I tried to be sensible as I was advised not to try lifting anything heavier than a kettle of water for about 6 weeks as I had to be mindful that I had to recover from both ops.I was advised by the medics and my insurer that I could resume driving when I felt that I could carry out an emergency stop safely and they were happy to leave that decision with me. My surgeon's comment was the same as yours which was that he was able to perform both ops but not all of the surgeons who could the RALP could also carry out the hernia repair so I was lucky on the day.

Hope all goes well for you.

Currently enjoying the sun in the garden with a coffee and thinking what a lucky guy I am.

Kind regards

Kevan

 
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