OK, So I Have Prostate Cancer.

Hi dave sorry that you have to be on here asking for help but now you are you will find that there will be someone that can give you information to all your situation.

It would be helpful if you can give details as and when you get them in PSA and also your Gleason score which will assist others in answering you.

If you look at publications on here and download the "toolkit" or ask for it to be sent to you it will be very helpful.

When you have appointments with your specialists it is also useful to take a notepad to write down what you are told and also to have pre written questions to ask them and if there is someone that can go with you so that there is a second pair of ears to take in what might be told to you.

You are on the path for treatment now and some of it is unavoidable but where there is a choice there are guys on here, and their OH's and relatives, that can steer you towards a decision. You are the only one that can make them for yourself but being furnished with facts and experiences from others will assist.

My treatment path is different from yours so cannot offer the benefit of my journey but all on here are with you every step of the way.

Best wishes and stay in touch with us, Chris/Woody

Life seems different upside down, take another viewpoint

Hello Dave and Mrs Dave and welcome to the site.

I hope somebody else will come along with their knowledge and advice but just wanted to welcome you.

Chris/Woody has offered very good advice about the Toolkit and the notebook and pen. If you get the toolkit in good time it will help as it will likely raise questions for you to ask, perhaps things you wouldn't have thought of beforehand.

Don't worry about appearing odd, lots of us do it and medical staff don't bat an eyelid. You will kick yourselves on the way home if you haven't asked relevant questions or made a note of the answers. Two pairs of ears are better than one as what one misses the other may pick up.

Being diagnosed with cancer, any cancer, can be terrifying because, like most cancers, it's a fear of the unknown.

Once decisions are made you may find that you cope better since a course is set.

The speed of your diagnosis is to be commended and you should be "grateful" for that.

If you decide on surgery, check the success rate of your surgeon. You want somebody really experienced !

The times ahead will be challenging for both you and your wife, but together you WILL get through it.

In the meantime, best wishes. Be patient with each other and remember to talk. Don't bottle up how you feel because talking does help.

Anything you want to know, come and ask. Somebody is bound to know the answer. Best not to Google. No subject it too personal or taboo. We are all in this together and although our experiences may differ because we chose different paths, we do all understand and appreciate how you both feel now.

Weekends tend to be quiet times on the site but I'm sure that others will be along at some stage.

Best Wishes

Sandra

PS. If you want more information (you might see from somebody's post that they had RP or whatever, then click on the name under their picture and you can read their profile)

Progress report; MRI scan booked for 9th July. They certainly don't "hang about", do they?

The NHS have been superb with this and I have nothing but praise and admiration for their professionalism, dedication and skill.

I'm not going to rave, but now we are getting out of the EU, our NHS is safe from interference and possible destruction.  I for one, am very glad about it.  

Two decision on removals in one month: Removal of my prostate and removal from the EU.

Couldn't feel better!

Will keep you updated.

Dave

Steady chaps. Let's get back to the subject.

Mmm! This is a forum for men with prostate cancer.  You obviously don't have prostate cancer so unless you are some sort of medical practitioner or your partner has/has had prostate cancer,  what on earth are you doing in this forum?

If you are a medical professional, then regardless of my beliefs, you have a Hippocratic Oath to support me, not to denigrate me.  If you are not, then I would expect any decent human being NOT to make comments to someone who may well be feeling quite depressed at the prospect of the cancer having spread beyond the prostate itself, which from the biopsy results and the speed at which things are moving, could quite be a possibility, not to mention the psychological effect the news has had on my immediate family.

So, thank you for your non-support.  I suggest you go for a rant on another forum. This is not the place for it.

Please don't bother to respond!  Matter closed!

Glendower, i don't usually read or respond to private messages. Best that all is in the open so there can be no misunderstandings.

What is really interesting is the people that posted agreeing with me and then deleted their posts - I shall leave mine until the moderator comes along to decide whether either of us broke the rules.