I am now 5 months post Full RT and after a further 36 Radiotherapy sessions, and am now asking my specialiest about trying to resume my sex life, i am 65 and although never particularly regular in having sex, I still enjoy the intamacy with my wife and she does with me too.
I have been prescirbed some form of Viagra but have as yet not tried it, as I get some bad pains when feeling any sort of erection.
Both my wife and I accept that at lest I am alive and maybe we can have a different type of intamacy rather than the full sex we enjoyed before my operation.
I do find it very frustrting but as we both love each other, we have found alternative ways to enjoy each other intamacy.
Yes it is very difficult for a man to accept the physical changes that RT brings but its no more difficult than for a woman who has to undergo an masectomy (in fact I really think its easier for a man than a woman), so we found different ways to be intimate that we never considered previously, this in itself is very intimate and enjoyable, and who know what it will eventually lead to.
My penis is never going to work as it did, but then again my legs dont work as they did, and other parts of my body dont work as they did 20 years ago, but I am still me and still can be intimate with my wife as I always could and morfe importantly i am still alive to enjoy the touch and feel of my wife.
Its about perspective and not just sex.