My wife and I were talking about this the other day. Remembering everyone has different thoughts and fears and preferences .........
I desperately didn't want surgery due to a mix of things including mental illness and an enormous fear of ED. Now I'm 2 years post surgery and see and hear and receive messages from scores of men , women , couples about the utter devastation that is caused by the various treatments , especially so to younger people I feel. I guess no surgeon is going to tell you just how awful 2 years of ED is going to be , when all he wants to do is remove your cancer.
And the mental torture this disease brings to us all. The waiting , the worrying , the fears , the blood tests. The relentless battle against something that seems invincible for the unlucky majority. There are very few winners with prostate cancer.
I am endlessly helping people , both men and women , whose sex-lives have been reduced to absolute zero by this disease , whether it be by mental collapse , embarrassment , communication problems , or sheer lack of solid expert advice and aftercare by the professionals. I've simply driven my own ED recovery myself because I didn't want to be totally impotent at 50 yrs old.
There has to be a tailored service and advice by the NHS depending on a mans age and wishes and fears. There is simply no point in removing a mans prostate and " curing " him , and then allowing his life to collapse around him , and his marriage to fail , and his self-esteem and confidence to plummet , without offering suitable mental and physical aftercare treatments.
I'm not speaking for all by any means , and most older men aren't as concerned I suppose , but my inbox and messenger and texts and calls etc are permanently full of people seeking help.
Sorry to ramble , but I think there needs to be a whole lot more honesty about treatment and it's side-effects up front by the health professionals and local GPs. They shouldn't wait for proud men to look for care.