Sounds like a similar set up to me. I had the RT very soon after the RP, and Bical prescribed for 2 years. To be honest, the RT was horrible, but I don't know if all people have that effect. I've just had the 6 month post RT results, PSA is now <0.0003, Tamoxifen is doing a sterling job and the Bical leaves me with a bit of fatigue. The onco says I can stop Bical at 18 months if I want. Very tempting!
The RP was full nerve sparing, and erections were trying to come back until I started getting zapped. Now it's pump use daily, no libido (which in some ways is a bit of a blessing as my bits can't/won't play anyway) slight dribbles but nowhere near full incontinence.
Was it worth it? Dunno. My take on life is that I'm not too fussed about it. Life is a terminal disease anyway, I've had a good one and am personally happy to bow out as and when required. I've certainly come very close on many occasions! However, my 10 year old daughter would like me to be alive, as would my wife. I could bin the treatment and have a better QoL for me, but I'm now bigger than just me as I have my family. The thought of being able to walk my daughter up the aisle, to see her perform on the big stage, to be there when she falls, these are the things that have guided my choices.
Hey ho, the sacrifices of being a parent and a husband. If I'd known that when I signed up to those roles, would I have still signed up? Yes. Sex life is on hold (hopefully temporary), slight annoying leakage daily but manageable, and I get to share the love and life of two fantastic people. I get to smile and enjoy my two roles. It seems life is bigger than just me.