Your husband sounds to be pretty much where I was in May this year. Take a look at my profile and you can see my route so far. I opted for the early Chemo as I have locally advanced PCa and my Onco felt that an aggressive approach would be the best way forward.
There is no doubt the waiting for results is the worst but once you know then you can prepare with all the information available on this site and from the experience of many others.
However difficult it may be at times, maintaining a positive attitude is key to helping in the fight against our unwelcome guest!