Hello User151 and apologies that your post appears to have been missed.
I don't have the experience you need but I hope, having bumoed you, that somebody with the knowledge will respond.
That initial diagnosis is a pig isn't it. We all, to some extent, understand how you both feel.
One thing you are not any more is alone!!
We can't control the winds - but we can adjust our sails
I sympathise with how you both are feeling, after all the tests and appointments you have a fairly good idea of where it’s going but when you are actually told you have PC it’s still a kick in the teeth. I had my RP surgery Aug 15th, sar going ok, if you want to click my avatar, you can read my journey so far. I would advise doing PF exercises prior to the op and also talk to people re concerns and thoughts and don’t bottle things up, I am sure this helped me post operative.
There are others here who can give you more info about being further along in the process and I wish you both well.
I hope you manage to get some answers, my husband has opposite problems ckd 5 but unable to have a transplant due to active prostate cancer egfr 14 at moment, so just had fisula fitted ready for when he has to go on dialysis. good luck .
Really sorry to hear about you husband , Barbara, and thanks DaveM re pf - started yoga again.
This is my first post and I can see that it helps to share ideas, thoughts and feelings, especially if you are new to the whole prostate cancer world. At the moment it can feel to be a dauntless task with so much information to absorb and the emotional turmoil.I have talked to a couple of men in a similar situation or who have been through the experience and found it very helpful.
Newly diagnosed husband.