Oh Barry
Definitely a hard call ( as Tech Guy said above) for you as well.
As we all know everyone’s journey varies and as you say a slightly different position of what they are treating changes the complexity and therefore the odds.
So A has sailed through the HIFU but it sounds like a higher risk for you ( I only knew about fistula risk from this forum - you guys have been amazing at getting the detail out there!)
But yes since A’s original low risk diagnosis at the end of 2016 we have been attempting (and achieving) to avoid over treatment so his QOL has not been impacted by either of his 2 focal treatments.
However doing nothing would have been an under treatment for sure The HIFU ‘long weekend’ has barely blipped his life. If it hasn’t done the job and something more radical needs doing then he has had time to adjust to the fact he has cancer and has tried to avoid any treatment that could change our lives. I think this will help him mentally if and when that radical door has to be opened.
if we could guarantee the outcome Techguy got the decision would be easy, however John (Bollinge) (if I understand correctly ) had the same procedure by the same surgeon and it’s been goodbye erections (plus his amusing take on his his lost inches!).
A hard call indeed for you both.
Clare