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Posted 04 Jul 2020 at 16:58

Hi. I’m so chuffed that your doing so well after surgery, it’s nice to read good stories instead of the doom and gloom. Can I ask , did you have staples or stitches in your incisions ? It seems like a lot of guys have had staples sounds gruesome. 
I’m having my surgery in Cardiff, I’ve got a covid test at 9am Monday morning. If I’m honest I’m getting really anxious as Thursday draws closer trying to get my mind around everything. Since my diagnosis I’ve been worried about the impact of ED will have on y marriage, even though I’m 53 I’ve only been married since 2017 so naturally lots of negative and insecure thoughts fill my mind on a daily basis. When I hear about positive stories like yours it takes the edge of the negative, so thank you for that keep them coming.

Stay safe and keep well

Carl.

User
Posted 04 Jul 2020 at 17:09

Carlos,

I was very anxious as well. Anybody would be. BUT I had open surgery and they banged in loads of staples. Never really hurt and has healed up just fine. Didn't feel a thing when they took them out. The sense of relief of waking up in recovery after the operation knowing it was behind me was imense.

I'm 14 weeks after and have had no incontinence issues at all since about week 10. Managed sex after about 4 weeks ....but wasn't my best ever performance ;-) Things have progressed positively since and although taking cialis still (which is no big deal) things getting slowly back to normal. Now, everyone is different, nothing comes with guarantees etc but if they are able to spare the nerves then it puts you in with a really good chance. Try not to worry and keep us updated

User
Posted 04 Jul 2020 at 17:10

And great to hear J

User
Posted 04 Jul 2020 at 17:19

Hi Carl. Yes I had stitches. I was thinking the same about people that have had staples, but who knows. 

You are in the same position as I was a couple of weeks ago. I got a couple of very positive messages from folks on here, and it made all the difference. Hence why I am reaching out to you.

Take care and hope all goes well next week.

J

User
Posted 04 Jul 2020 at 17:24

Originally Posted by: Online Community Member

Hi. I’m so chuffed that your doing so well after surgery, it’s nice to read good stories instead of the doom and gloom. Can I ask , did you have staples or stitches in your incisions ? It seems like a lot of guys have had staples sounds gruesome. 
I’m having my surgery in Cardiff, I’ve got a covid test at 9am Monday morning. If I’m honest I’m getting really anxious as Thursday draws closer trying to get my mind around everything. Since my diagnosis I’ve been worried about the impact of ED will have on y marriage, even though I’m 53 I’ve only been married since 2017 so naturally lots of negative and insecure thoughts fill my mind on a daily basis. When I hear about positive stories like yours it takes the edge of the negative, so thank you for that keep them coming.

Stay safe and keep well

Carl.

 

OK Carl well here's another positive one for you then...

Surgery 12th June 2020. 4th night after surgery I felt "nocturnal stirrings down there", which I took to be an early indicator of successful nerve sparing. 😀 (Subsequently confirmed once catheter properly out). It was a bit uncomfortable though with a catheter in.

I've had a really good recovery so far with the one bad thing being that I had bad pain after TWOC1 (TWOC = trial without catheter), so they retubed me for another few days (not a common occurence though). But after TWOC2 it was fine and I used a total of 2 pads over 2 days and have been going padless with zero accidents for 6 days now (today is the 7th).
I've also been gradually increasing the walking. 2.9 miles today (day 21 post op).


Wounds, I had dissolvable stitches and glue. That's all gone now and the wounds are a little bit red but basically healed. No pain relief required any more and a pretty much full range of movement.
One more week of injections and compression socks to go and then I can start some more vigorous exercise, but still 3 weeks before I can ride a bike.

I hope your experience proves to be as positive or more so than mine. But as others have said. Waking up in recovery, it's like "phew - still here then. Oooh and I can see too. I'll take it." And then they told me I'd been trying to take out my canula while I was out of it. 😂

Edited by member 04 Jul 2020 at 17:29  | Reason: clarification of TWOC

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Two cannibals named Ectomy and Prost, all alone on a Desert island.

Prost was the strongest, so Prost ate Ectomy.

User
Posted 04 Jul 2020 at 18:10

Hi Carl,

I was surprised to have metal staples.  They gave me a staple remover to give to the GP.  It was a very basic hook.  They're thicker than paper staples and just make two holes.  When they're out they leave two tracks of red marks but now I wouldn't know where the holes were.   No problem at all.

If you click on this link it takes you to a photo of mine.  I hope.   

https://lh5.googleusercontent.com/vbvGQhUy9z3F3JEj9u8gBPN0DFlxJts1TVpRUzn39oC9ARX7ec7v2I8EQX44OFtv3tufvWzpoSgbudB7xEYFYct3Jm6yeIUPI0aWEDT_niuZJOvf3g=w1280

I was also surprised to find they shaved my stomach.

I suppose I was anxious before the op but it was balanced by excitement.  Getting that thing out was all I could think about.   On awakening I had no pain at all which seemed incredible and felt quite exhilarated that 3 months of worry was gone, removed.  I knew that worry would be replaced by something else to worry about and I know that we live from psa test to psa test but it's been given a good shot.

All the best for Thursday.   If you say what time it is I'll remember and think about you in the hospital.

Regards
Peter

Edited by member 04 Jul 2020 at 20:23  | Reason: Not specified

User
Posted 04 Jul 2020 at 22:55

Hi Peter my surgery is booked for 7:30 am ..... Hope your well and not to worried about the psa roulette

Carl..

User
Posted 04 Jul 2020 at 23:29

Carlos

From my experience finding solutions to the ED issue was fun.

Thanks Chris

User
Posted 09 Jul 2020 at 18:06

Hopefully Carlos had a successful op this morning.

User
Posted 09 Jul 2020 at 18:34

Originally Posted by: Online Community Member

Hopefully Carlos had a successful op this morning.

Hope so. I expect he'll let us know after he gets home (tomorrow?) 😀 

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Two cannibals named Ectomy and Prost, all alone on a Desert island.

Prost was the strongest, so Prost ate Ectomy.

User
Posted 10 Jul 2020 at 12:43

Carlos, hope all went well yesterday. I had surgery 18 months ago , and living in Belfast the hospitals did not offer Radical Prostatectomy so my wife and I took a flight a day before the operation at Cambridge. We took a few extra days after the operation in the hospital and then at a local hotel before flying back to Belfast. I can say that having surgery worked very well for me. I was told to exercise everyday after the operation and as others have mentioned was only allowed to leave the ward  once I had completed 50 laps of the ward! 18 months on and I am grand. First few weeks needed to watch how long I was out for a walk to avoid being cut short , but this steadily got better as the weeks progressed. Pelvic floor exercises are essential, and these help considerably , but need to be continued on a regular basis to provide that extra help and confidence when you are out. ED is work in progress, and you need to be patient , thankfully I was lucky that  I nerve sparing, which helped. Not easy going through what you are doing , during these bizarre times , but hope you are coping well and my best wishes to you. 

regards 

Keithyboy

Keithyboy 

 

User
Posted 13 Jul 2020 at 10:41

Hi Carlo. Hope everything went well on Thursday. It gets better every day after the surgery.

J

User
Posted 13 Jul 2020 at 18:41

Hi. Had my surgery on Thursday and let home on Friday afternoon, sat was awful being sick all day which was not only worrying but incredibly painful. Thankfully this nausea stopped and although still not feeling great I’m keeping food down so that’s a positive.

Catheter is a bit of struggle and inconvenience but it’s a necessary evil, looking forward to getting it out and trying to have a decent nights sleep.

Onwards and upwards 

Carl

User
Posted 13 Jul 2020 at 18:45

Hope you're starting to feel better soon Carl 

Did the surgery all go well ?

User
Posted 13 Jul 2020 at 18:49

Interesting I was sick on day 2 also. As I say, it gets better every day. 

Good luck with the catheter.

J

User
Posted 13 Jul 2020 at 19:01

Surgery went well according to the main man, no drain in either. Showered today and took dressings off which was really nice. One question I do have is. Is it normal to have a bit of leakage around where the Catheter goes in ?

 

Carl.

User
Posted 13 Jul 2020 at 19:21

Hi Carlos, 

Good to hear that. I had some leakage too which seems to be normal. Make sure you keep the area clean though, and Instagel is always recommended on here.

Kev.

User
Posted 13 Jul 2020 at 19:49

I did a few times. Happened when trying to pass wind. Tried to avoid though. Nurse said not to worry. I also note it is described in the handbook I got from hospital. 

Glad your surgery has gone well. 

J

User
Posted 13 Jul 2020 at 19:57

Glad the surgery went well

If you feel the urge to empty your bladder just try and relax and the catheter will do the work. The moment you try to empty your bladder you will get some bypass and leakage. My guess would be this is what you are experiencing

Once you are having bowel movements a level of bypass/leakage is inevitable

You will feel so much better once that catheter is out-not long now

User
Posted 13 Jul 2020 at 20:40

Originally Posted by: Online Community Member

Surgery went well according to the main man, no drain in either. Showered today and took dressings off which was really nice. One question I do have is. Is it normal to have a bit of leakage around where the Catheter goes in ?

 

Carl.

Brilliant Carl. Good to hear from you. Glad it went well. 😃

Yes, leakage around the catheter (bypass) is perfectly normal. I was told particularly when farting or having a poo. This is one of the reasons for washing the catheter each time you have a bowel movement (in my instructions, anyway).

If you can keep the catheter really clean you will reduce the chance of getting a UTI. I had to change my shorts at least daily as they can get a bit gross.

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Two cannibals named Ectomy and Prost, all alone on a Desert island.

Prost was the strongest, so Prost ate Ectomy.

 
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