So I finally spoke to the consultant today. Whilst stopping short of saying the second opinion was wrong, she admitted there was a perfectly good chance that this was the case and that we had been misled. She also informed me that my original diagnosis of 3+4=7 from Peterborough, was given after my biopsy results were reviewed by two separate Pathologists. The SMDT decided to go with the version from the other Pathologist and downgraded my score to 6!
She fully expects my PSA level to rise again by my next test in June, at which point she will get me another MRI scan done, another biopsy for re-staging, then we can talk RARP. I questioned the 3 month wait but she said to trust her, and that it would be better to have another test result to base her advice on. I have to trust her knowledge and experience here, so didn't question her further.
Very frustrating, but it looks like I should have just cracked on with treatment back in September.