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Advanced prostat cancer part 2

User
Posted 02 Nov 2021 at 22:30
Pleased that you are settling in just fine.

xxxxhugsxxxx

User
Posted 02 Nov 2021 at 23:27

Originally Posted by: Online Community Member
Do not grieve me because I live on in the faces of my children

 

I love that Julie  - I think I will have that on my headstone. At the moment, my death plan (which I wrote years ago but update every so often) says that the inscription on my stone should be "she was very pleased with herself" 🤣

I saw that you had managed to get back to Essex - I am so pleased for you and yes, it is good to be back in safe arms with support around you. Big question is, have you kept the strap-on mower?

Trevor would be so proud of you as well as the boys xxx 

"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." Soren Kierkegaard

User
Posted 04 Nov 2021 at 21:34

The strap on is long gone Lyn 😂 thank goodness it was the bane of my life .

you are more than welcome to the epitaph for those of us lucky enough to have children I believe it is so true because we are never really gone a part of us will always live on 😘

NEVER LAUGH AT A LIVE DRAGON
User
Posted 18 Jul 2022 at 01:45

I really want this post to reach out to others that have young children and the worry that how a cancer diagnosis of a parent affects them . 

I was terrified for how Trevor’s diagnosis would affect my boys at the time of his diagnosis they where 14 and 9 , babies really compared to lots of others , but also I am sure many other men on here have had similar ages and gone through the heart ache and worry that we  did .

i have to say it wasn’t easy in fact I’m not going to sugar coat it Trevor had 5 years after a terminal diagnosis that was horrendous for my self and my boys and of course Trevor  ( every thing is documented if you have the time to look back on my posts ) . Most of posts I tried to make it as light hearted as I could in the most of our dire of circumstances.

But and a Huge But here we are today  almost 5 years on . James has achieved a 1st and  and his Masters in Physics and Astro Physics, Trevor would be so proud of his boys .

My message is although sometimes our children can go through the harshest of times they are more resistant than we think and can and do amazing things regardless of the struggles that life presents .

my message would be have faith in your children they will survive life’s knocks and tragedies ( I was terrified that mine wouldn’t ) but here they are grown men ( almost ) 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

NEVER LAUGH AT A LIVE DRAGON
User
Posted 18 Jul 2022 at 06:24
Thank you Julie my friend. It’s only recently that we told my 12 yr old son that it was incurable. He’s always known I’ve had it these past 7 yrs but I think he thought I was fixed. But over time the word has got around and he’s been confronted by lovely wee sh***tes in the playground saying your dads gonna die. It’s led to some heart-wrenching chats for sure. Thanks for your positivity xx
User
Posted 18 Jul 2022 at 12:34

Well done James. I'm trying to remember if Physics is a hard degree or whether Tourism and Leisure Management is the hard one?

Dave

User
Posted 25 Jul 2022 at 11:52
Trevor... It was so long journey... Stay strong we all are wih you!
 
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