I had robot assisted prostatectomy 3 years ago, suffer from mild incontinence and Erectile Dysfunction. Everything was tough - difficult surgery, long recovery, incontinence, erectile dysfunction - and we never thought we would return to our pre-surgery days. But here we are still having sex, different but with unintended benefits. We had to learn to live with new normal which we managed.
A few useful comments:
Loss of nerves during surgery does not stop you enjoying sex in many forms, even if you are incontinent.
You can masturbate or someone else can masturbate you to orgasm without and erection.
There are many ways of creating an erection: Viagra or similar, injections, implant and lastly but not the least a VED (Vacuum Erection Device).
Penetrative sex is possible, but if you use a pump you have to adapt how you make love - imagination and a sense of humour helps.
If you are on HT your libido will take a hit but hat does not mean you can't pleasure your partner and get pleasure from skin to skin contact.
With all this to think about, having a new partner will need some thought. I am no expert but I think it is important that you take your partner into your confidence as soon as you feel she is ready to chat. If there is a connection and mutual love and respect, the desire to please each other can be amazing. Trust your instincts and good luck.
Edited: by member 02 Jan 2025 at 21:19
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