Hi Jim,
It would have been helpful to confirm that the surgeon was a private consultation , and as Lyn asked - a specialist in P.Ca. ?
Against some opinions no doubt, I wonder if you are approaching this in the right way.
We have talked here about removal of primary tumour being helpful in slowing progression and also you may have read that some of us have had/propose salvage surgery or other treatments for recurrence in the prostate. Citing removal of primary tumour slowing progression.
All this further treatment has been / is based on clear scans other than activity in the prostate.
Have you actually had a PET/CT Choline scan to check further the lymph involvement ?
To treat aggressively as you are considering may be wise. But to undergo treatments which will barely slow things down ( and might even cause further problems ) is less to your advantage.
E.G. will surgery in your case cause further aggression elsewhere or less ? Answer probably unknown to date.
If you wish to go all-out for treatments then it might be better to treat systemically first. This involves HT of course and the newer drugs such as Abiraterone or Enzalutamide early on would be potentially good if you could get them.
The B.Ca. approach ( which is based on more research & longer time of trying treatments generally ), in your case with lymph involvement could well be HT + chemo to treat systemically & hit the cancer hard WHEREVER it is . Microscopic cells unseen by scan included.Then, dependent upon good scan results a second phase of R/T and or surgery considered.
Surgical removal of affected lymphs is one option with follow-up R/T. Or, Brachytherapy ( perhaps HDR ) to the prostate with EBRT which seems very successful as an alternative to surgery. Or, full prostatectomy with some lymph removal.
One good report from the U.S involved a case of Chemo + HT + R/T run together. Another was surgical removal of lymphs, including some behind the abdomen which couldn't be treated with R/T combined with HT and Brachytherapy + EBRT to the prostate & nearby lymphs.
Unfortunately, as mentioned , we don't know the full extent of your problem and I'd suggest you need all the information possible before you dive in.
I hope this helps a bit more.