Thankyou so much for all your responses and encouragement. So many stories. Steve, take care of yourself, and my best wishes with the 'ticker' issue - so much that can be done now. Mo, I don't know what to say. You sound very strong. This is a great resource, the Tool Kit is a big help. It's all a journey of discovery, and choices. I'll post future events on my profile. Fingers crossed. Ray, Johsan and Arthur - quite a community here ! Thanks to you all, and best wishes, Hugh.