thanks for the response, sorry about the lack of info in original question mind has been a bit of a blur,
he did say the prostrate felt very abnormal, hard and lumpy and in his opinion it was not in the early stages and he just expected the biopsy to confirm this, and that we would need to take it one step at a time
he was a really nice guy I shook his hand afterwards (as I do with any doctor) and he kept a firm grip, more of a comfort hold it seemed to me.
I did say that I had feared the worse and his response was along the lines of
'even though you had prepared for this comfirmation is still hard to take in'