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C

Good to hear from you stranger and pleased that things are heading in the right direction.

Thanks Chris

Hi Carlos,

Nice to read about your story and your attitude.

Your urinary control is likely to continue to improve I would hope, but I wonder if you have given it a chance to repair or heal? I found that running made me leak when during the day and night I was dry, the pounding on the treadmill would fill a pad that I did not need during the day. It got me down a bit, so I stopped running and settled instead for very brisk walking. This allowed me to train but stay dry, which improved my mindset. I kept at it with the weights and machines though. Have you considered allowing your urethra some rest from the pounding which may allow you to get drier quicker? Even a month off might give you a discernible improvement in the dryness stakes? And if after a month it does not improve you could go back to the running again? Just a thought. I have the odd very rare stress leak now, which I manage to catch at the first sphincter, for example I hit my head on a bar at the gym last week, the squirt got to first base but not home plate, went to the loo and kept dry pants.

Did you have nerve sparing surgery, either one or both nerve bundles saved? Depending on whether you did or not, natural erections may still return. I saw a specialist about 6 months later my RRP, and he said having had twitches and some movement within 2 months of surgery, I had a good chance of recovering NEF. He was right. He also sorted out some other issues for me, not mine, but which were affecting me badly in the EF department. In any case he said that recovery can take anything up to two years, and then improvements may still continue to happen. He and others were all clear about one thing, use to or lose it, I had to manipulate and play about with myself as much as possible to get the blood circulating to the damaged and knocked about tissue, what a hard life, well not really to begin with, but you get the idea.

Are you still on the Cialis?

Have you considered asking for a referral to an erectile function specialist? Well worth it, as with a year of data behind you , experience etc they may be able to give you an idea of what you may expect in time?

Your best aid to recovery is always going to be a supportive and caring partner, which you can not get from the NHS! ;-)

atb

dave

I do have one question, are you taking any medication for T2 diabetes ? Actos or metformin in particular as these can both cause ED as can Diabetes in general. So if you are taking them they may not help.

Your running training alone may be sufficient to keep your HBA1C tests in the acceptable range. Maybe something you can ask your medical team about?

Love your honesty about pre and post surgery sex. I'm sure you will get several posts like the ones you have had already giving great advice on improving continence or coping strategies and advising on ED and the help that can be given in that department too.

Happy running

Xx

Mo

Thanks for posting a detailed update, my husband age 46 had Da Vinci 3 weeks ago and this is good for him to read as it helps to hear from someone his age a bit further down the road. Also well done on the Marathons that's fantastic!

Best wishes,

Trish

hi Carlos, 

This the time for you to get a grip of yourself.  This is not the time for niceties or to fanny about with gentleness and soft talk.  

"Pump gathering dust"?  Why?  You are only12 months down your line, you have a further 12 months to go, and more to get some recovery.

FGS.  Listen!  THIS is your "Golden hour", the window of opportunity where you can make the most of your potential sexual recovery and if you do not make the most of it your sexual recovery and future erectile function may be reduced.  It seems logical to me that in recovery your best chance to optimise recovery is to get at it and with it asap after the op. 

The point is, you have a chance to get some recovery now. Please do not let it go with out making the most and best of it.  

It is your choice at the end of the day.  

atb

dave

PS - if this seems like air, feel free to ignore it, but have a good weekend.

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Titanic, I find that in the aroused state (of mind) I dribble too. Must be the old chap trying his hardest.

If I think about it too much, it gets me down. I don't feel any less of a 'man' or sorry for myself. When I learned what side affects to expect I thought I would to be fair. I feel so lucky to be here. Doesn't help when people take such a blazey attitude with PC. Folks will say, 'ooh, it's the best cancer to have' or 'it's an easy fix these days'. They haven't got a bloody clue. Drives me nuts. I even had my optician say to me the other day, 'it's a wonder why prostates aren't removed in all men, it doesn't do anything does it?' That's an educated man apparently!!!!! It's a cruel cancer for a man to have. I wondederd what would happen, perish the thought if I ended up on my own again. Terrified me at first. Now though, Im of the mind to talk openly about my situation with all & they could take or leave it. Quite frankly, if it's the instant sex that's important to a woman, I don't think long term she would be the one for me at all.

Ooh. Rant over lol

I note note that some comments and suggestions have been made about the lack of liquid pollutant, aka semianl fluid, that those of us who have had the RRP no longer produce when climaxing. And the fact that the "partner", "recipient" of said pollutant, may, without presence of said pollutant, not be aware that "arrival time" is approaching or has been in fact "arrived at" or "reached"?

So, how, practically, to overcome this lack of appreciation or perception or understanding?

Lets go back to basic communication skills shall we?

Before languages were developed there were visual communication methods. So, a sign? Why not? Already prepared as in Blue Peter "Here's one I made earlier" stylie. To be produced and utilised by you at the moment you arrive.

So there you are banging, sorry too blunt, how about humping, oops still too blunt for some, maybe dipping and undipping away for all you are worth at a steady cadence. Not too steady, variety is the spice of cadence. Maybe you have a metronome? Or a favourite piece of music, not the funeral march, that would be too slow, and might send your partner to sleep. It may take you longer to climax after the operation so perhaps you have been at it for some hours, knees and stomach muscles permitting, valiantly looking to achieve your goal. Your partner is, I don't know, compiling the shopping list for the next few weeks, painting his or her nails, vacuuming the ground floor, don't laugh, you may be following determinedly behind and still engaged? And when the moment arrives, having checked that it is okay with your better half you might tap them on the head or wherever and plonk a sign on front of their eyes that reads:

"OI, HELLO, IT'S ME, I AM BEHIND YOU, I AM THE ONE THAT HAS BEEN BANGING AWAY AT YOU FOR (insert time, or simply put) HAVE BEEN FOR A WHILE AND I "AM COMING NOW", or "ITS NOW". PLEASE FEIGN INTEREST AND APPRECIATIVE REACTION".

Just a thought.

Alternatively, if your partner has been surfing the web while you are beavering away, quite common I can assure you, a surer way of attracting their attention is to disconnect the router. Not the thing that you use to make holes or slots in wood or make joints, the machine that enables them to be online 60/24/24/7/365-6 ad infinitum. You may also need to extract the sim cards from phones and tablets and anywhere else sim cards may be installed, maybe on their head? Disconnecting them from the web is akin to sticking a large orange in their mouth and restricting their breathing, it will heighten their experience as their primary need to "breathe" aka "beingonline" is restricted. A word of warning, DO NOT leave them disconnected for too long, NO MORE than 20 seconds, they will not survive. You could send them an email? Or Facebook message? Or tweet? Or Instagram? anything online will get there attention sooner than you speaking to them or nudging them.

atb

dave