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Posted 05 Dec 2015 at 13:55
Alan Shinton Husband of Redpawlady November 2015


Stephan Horsfall 4th December 2015
Terence Dickinson 8th December 2015


Jacques Fischer 2nd January 2016
Gary Spickett 4th March 2016
David Miller. 24th March 2016
Michael G Harris April 2016
Allister Murphy 27th April 2016
Graham Wilianson 15th May 2016
Tim Holden 16th July 2016
John Muirhead. 20th July 2016
Jack Robinson. 8th August 2016
Nigel Meiklejohn. 31st August 2016
Phil Troake. 23rd September 2016
Stan Joslin 23rd September 2016
Kevin Vardy 25th September 2016
Tony Clarke 12th October 2016
Chris Clark 16th October 2016





RIP to you all.

















They are no longer in pain to this disease, they have gone to join our other Fallen in the great party in the sky.


May they rest in peace, their names will live on, they will not be forgotten.





Chris.

Edited by member 17 Oct 2016 at 09:23  | Reason: Not specified

User
Posted 31 Oct 2016 at 23:24

Well, we had a 'good' service yesterday, our local All Souls Memorial Service, and it was the first time with a new Vicar who actually mentioned The Prostate Cancer Sufferers.

If anyone would like to see the service sheet then message me and I will try to put it out on the PC Facebook thread.


ABSENT FRIENDS 6 will start in a new thread, but only if I know names and dates, so you all know how to contact me.

God Bless you all, and all the Widows, and families of our Absent Friends, your men folk WILL be remembered.

God Bless
Chris.

User
Posted 05 Dec 2015 at 22:45

Those of us who have been on here some time will remember "redpawlady", Cath, our sincere condolences to you and your family as you said your goodbyes to Alan this week.


RIP Alan.


I only heard about Alan's funeral from Facebook, and my thanks to Elsie Cooper for highlighting it to me.


 



Chris.

Edited by member 05 Dec 2015 at 22:52  | Reason: Not specified

User
Posted 23 Oct 2016 at 15:30

I have now closed my list of names ready for this years service of Remembrance at our local All Souls Service next Sunday, 30th October.


They WILL ALL be remembered by the lighting of some candles, plus an extra candle for previous years.

God Bless you all, and as a famous comedian used to finish with, "May your God go with you ".


I don't know if I will carry this on for the future as most of us oldies have lost all our friends, I think that there are only a couple of stalwarts from B2PCa still around, but I will still take a note of names even if they aren't listed.

God Bless
Chris.

User
Posted 05 Dec 2015 at 13:55
Alan Shinton Husband of Redpawlady November 2015


Stephan Horsfall 4th December 2015
Terence Dickinson 8th December 2015


Jacques Fischer 2nd January 2016
Gary Spickett 4th March 2016
David Miller. 24th March 2016
Michael G Harris April 2016
Allister Murphy 27th April 2016
Graham Wilianson 15th May 2016
Tim Holden 16th July 2016
John Muirhead. 20th July 2016
Jack Robinson. 8th August 2016
Nigel Meiklejohn. 31st August 2016
Phil Troake. 23rd September 2016
Stan Joslin 23rd September 2016
Kevin Vardy 25th September 2016
Tony Clarke 12th October 2016
Chris Clark 16th October 2016





RIP to you all.

















They are no longer in pain to this disease, they have gone to join our other Fallen in the great party in the sky.


May they rest in peace, their names will live on, they will not be forgotten.





Chris.

Edited by member 17 Oct 2016 at 09:23  | Reason: Not specified

User
Posted 25 Oct 2016 at 23:47
Chris totally agree with Bazza, You do a fantastic job and if it wasn't for you where would all of these wonderful Dads, Brothers ,
Sons , Uncles be remembered.
Long live the Exbus page , you have got my vote.
BFN
Julie X
NEVER LAUGH AT A LIVE DRAGON
User
Posted 07 Dec 2015 at 00:25

Thank you for your thoughts.  It's been a busy couple of weeks!!


We were just 3 months away from 5 years of fighting this b*stard!  It's been a long and difficult haul.  You may recall that Alan went into heart failure within the first year of HT and along with COPD life was not easy for him.  His cancer had behaved itself up until 3-4 months ago and in view of this we had always considered that a belting heart attack would get him in the end.


What we had never considered was blood clots!  Both legs' main arteries blocked just 6 weeks ago and he was rushed into hospital where one foot died very quickly.  Then his heart kicked off again so he was moved from vascular to coronary care - only problem seems to be these specialists forget the basics and even though I was begging them to deal with his pain issues they were not listening.  Alan became a monster in there to the point I had to stay with him day and night to keep him calm.  Mentally he had fallen to pieces and he was hallucinating too!


Moving him to a nursing home was complicated and took up the whole of one week by which time he was throwing things, taking a swipe at me, swearing every other word and being a general nightmare ... but they still wouldn't sedate him!  However, we managed to move him on a Thursday - he was still ready to fight the world but within 24 hours at the home, the pain issues were under control and he became calm and peaceful again.  He only lasted another week and died peacefully.  We were alone together at the time - just as we had planned and hoped for.  As the home was across the county border he had to be registered with a new doctor.  When he came out to certify the death he confirmed that the only medical condition to blame for his death was Prostate Cancer and that was what would go on the death certificate.  Alan would have been chuffed about that as he always said his original GP (Dodgy Doc) 'had killed him' - so he would have felt a winner on 3 fronts .. the GMC, litigation, and now the cause of his death.


We had a fabulous Life Celebration for Alan on Friday at the crematorium .. lots of laughs as well as tears. Four of his army mates as pallbearers and protection squad giving Alan is final salute as the curtains surrounded the coffin.  Humanist ceremony with Buddhist input - just what he wanted.  We left the crem to "Always look on the bright side of life" and everyone attending was gifted a small Buddha in his memory.  Lovely meal afterwards at the pub where we met on a blind date in 1993.  Had my flowers returned home so that I could appreciate them.


I feel I have been grieving for Alan the whole time since he was diagnosed as terminal in 2011 and along with the huge relief that he was out of pain, made his death a bit easier.  Obviously I'm gutted and there have been many tears, but he wanted me to carry one, move out of the bungalow to somewhere smaller so I think he would be pleased that I've made an immediate started on clearing out our large 4 bedroom bungalow which is bursting at the seams.  How does that happen when there is only two of you?  So much 'stuff'.


Huge hole in my life now as Alan was such a big personality .. but I'm leaving him in the care of his Buddha until it's my time to be with him again.

Edited by member 07 Dec 2015 at 00:26  | Reason: Not specified

User
Posted 26 Sep 2016 at 21:06

Went to Truro Cathedral today and they are raising funds through a Roof Appeal so we bought a slate in memory of all our friends from A F 3, 4 and 5.

See my page on Facebook

God Bless

Chris.

User
Posted 17 Oct 2016 at 02:07

Sad news. Here it is reported by Kevin's wife Susan.
KEVIN VARDY
Wigan, United Kingdom

16 Oct 2016 — Kevin's courageous and selfless life came to an end at 7 am Sunday 25th September 2016. He died at home where he desired. For 10 long days I sat holding his hands and kissed his last breath away. Privileged to have shared,loved and laughed the last 30 years with this man. He was 54. Please,if any of you are able, carry on his work to raise awareness.

Barry
User
Posted 20 May 2016 at 20:43
RIP Graham, that party in the sky is getting riotous! I imagine quite a large amount of Guinness is being swigged up there.
User
Posted 01 Aug 2016 at 19:25

No sooner said than done Linda.
Our sincere condolences to you and your family at such a sad time.


Such a shame keep having to add all these names, RIP GUYS.

They will all be remembered, their names live on and you all have your cherished memories.

God Bless
Chris

User
Posted 16 Oct 2016 at 22:39
Chris , just heard that Kevin vardey has passed so another man down to this terrible disease. He posted on here about a national PSA screening and tried to get his vote passed in parliament.
RIP Kevin
So more sad news
BFN
Julie X
NEVER LAUGH AT A LIVE DRAGON
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User
Posted 05 Dec 2015 at 22:45

Those of us who have been on here some time will remember "redpawlady", Cath, our sincere condolences to you and your family as you said your goodbyes to Alan this week.


RIP Alan.


I only heard about Alan's funeral from Facebook, and my thanks to Elsie Cooper for highlighting it to me.


 



Chris.

Edited by member 05 Dec 2015 at 22:52  | Reason: Not specified

User
Posted 06 Dec 2015 at 12:10

Condolences Cath on your loss.

Best Wishes to you and yours at this difficult time

We can't control the winds - but we can adjust our sails
User
Posted 07 Dec 2015 at 00:25

Thank you for your thoughts.  It's been a busy couple of weeks!!


We were just 3 months away from 5 years of fighting this b*stard!  It's been a long and difficult haul.  You may recall that Alan went into heart failure within the first year of HT and along with COPD life was not easy for him.  His cancer had behaved itself up until 3-4 months ago and in view of this we had always considered that a belting heart attack would get him in the end.


What we had never considered was blood clots!  Both legs' main arteries blocked just 6 weeks ago and he was rushed into hospital where one foot died very quickly.  Then his heart kicked off again so he was moved from vascular to coronary care - only problem seems to be these specialists forget the basics and even though I was begging them to deal with his pain issues they were not listening.  Alan became a monster in there to the point I had to stay with him day and night to keep him calm.  Mentally he had fallen to pieces and he was hallucinating too!


Moving him to a nursing home was complicated and took up the whole of one week by which time he was throwing things, taking a swipe at me, swearing every other word and being a general nightmare ... but they still wouldn't sedate him!  However, we managed to move him on a Thursday - he was still ready to fight the world but within 24 hours at the home, the pain issues were under control and he became calm and peaceful again.  He only lasted another week and died peacefully.  We were alone together at the time - just as we had planned and hoped for.  As the home was across the county border he had to be registered with a new doctor.  When he came out to certify the death he confirmed that the only medical condition to blame for his death was Prostate Cancer and that was what would go on the death certificate.  Alan would have been chuffed about that as he always said his original GP (Dodgy Doc) 'had killed him' - so he would have felt a winner on 3 fronts .. the GMC, litigation, and now the cause of his death.


We had a fabulous Life Celebration for Alan on Friday at the crematorium .. lots of laughs as well as tears. Four of his army mates as pallbearers and protection squad giving Alan is final salute as the curtains surrounded the coffin.  Humanist ceremony with Buddhist input - just what he wanted.  We left the crem to "Always look on the bright side of life" and everyone attending was gifted a small Buddha in his memory.  Lovely meal afterwards at the pub where we met on a blind date in 1993.  Had my flowers returned home so that I could appreciate them.


I feel I have been grieving for Alan the whole time since he was diagnosed as terminal in 2011 and along with the huge relief that he was out of pain, made his death a bit easier.  Obviously I'm gutted and there have been many tears, but he wanted me to carry one, move out of the bungalow to somewhere smaller so I think he would be pleased that I've made an immediate started on clearing out our large 4 bedroom bungalow which is bursting at the seams.  How does that happen when there is only two of you?  So much 'stuff'.


Huge hole in my life now as Alan was such a big personality .. but I'm leaving him in the care of his Buddha until it's my time to be with him again.

Edited by member 07 Dec 2015 at 00:26  | Reason: Not specified

User
Posted 07 Dec 2015 at 03:35

Gosh, funeral on Friday and start clearing out on Monday - that's brave.

RIP Alan

"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." Soren Kierkegaard
User
Posted 07 Dec 2015 at 09:25

Cath
As a relative newcomer to these forums, and with a PCa that at the moment looks very curable, it gave me tears to read your last report. It is hard to imagine the suffering some go through and when the end point comes seems to some extent a relief. My deepest sympathy to you and your family and hope you manage to get things sorted out and settled in your new home.

User
Posted 07 Dec 2015 at 17:40

Cath, what a send of for Alan, well done on the organising!

And what courage to start on the downsizing so soon, again well done.

And, again, our sincere condolences to you and your family, you've had a hard time of it so don't overdo it.

Blessings,
Chris.

User
Posted 07 Dec 2015 at 18:04

Cath, like Dave I have PCa confined to prostate which is curable and can only imagine the way that you must be feeling, although you have had time to make plans knowing what the outcome was to be it must be so difficult to take in.

My thoughts are with you and your family at this sad time

Chris/Woody

Life seems different upside down, take another viewpoint.

User
Posted 07 Dec 2015 at 20:32

RIP Alan, a lovely celebration by the sound of it which is so important. Thanks so much for sharing those last difficult weeks, he is at peace now!

User
Posted 07 Dec 2015 at 21:34
Hi will you please add my husband Stephen Horsfall to your list. He passed away last Friday 4th December. Thank you

Tina
User
Posted 07 Dec 2015 at 22:04

My condolences and thoughts to both Cath and to Tina,

dave

All we can do - is do all that we can.


So, do all you can to help yourself, then make the best of your time. :-)


I am the statistic.

User
Posted 11 Dec 2015 at 14:38

Tina, hedgehog789, our sincere condolences to you and the family, at least Stephen is now pain free.

RIP Stephen.


God Bless, Chris.

User
Posted 04 Jan 2016 at 22:58

And yet another man has died from PCa, notified from LOL now Prostate Sisters Accord


 


Valerie, keep your memories, he is no longer in pain and has gone to join the great prostate group party in the sky!


 


RIP Jacques, our sincere condolences to Valerie and the family from Chris and Shirley

User
Posted 05 Jan 2016 at 01:43

would like to add my condolences also
nidge

run long and prosper
'pooh how do you spell love'
'piglet you dont spell love -you just feel it'
User
Posted 03 Mar 2016 at 22:57

It is some time since I looked on this forum to see if there are any more names to add, please, if you know of any, please message me.

Blessings
Chris

Ps, it could be that many people have gone onto the Facebook pages instead.

User
Posted 05 Mar 2016 at 13:00

From our Facebook friends.
Another life lost to this disease, although the family do have the faulty gene.
RIP Gary, hope you enjoy the great party in the sky.



My sincere condolences to his niece Sophia, for posting, and to his family.

Chris. Xx

Edited by member 05 Mar 2016 at 13:03  | Reason: Not specified

User
Posted 05 Mar 2016 at 14:38

RIP Gary.
Condolences to all

We can't control the winds - but we can adjust our sails
User
Posted 06 Mar 2016 at 16:56

I've just been informed about another of our clan, Terry Dickinson, terryd, who sadly passed on December 8th.

RIP Terry, and condolences to his family and friends.

Also, George has posted about the passing of Professor Jane Plant, a lot of people on here and on B2PCa followed her diet plans, again condolences to her family.

Chris.

User
Posted 17 Apr 2016 at 17:11

Just been reading Rosy's , Liz, posts.

Yet another young man joined the big party in the sky.

RIP David, your name will live on, our sincere condolences to Liz and her family.

Edited by member 17 Apr 2016 at 20:39  | Reason: Not specified

User
Posted 26 Apr 2016 at 21:08

Just read about our dear Allster who died today, you had a long struggle, and it looked like you were winning but God has called you in the end.

RIP Allister, our very sincere condolences to Laura and the rest of the family.

God Bless, Chris and Shirley.

Edited by member 26 Apr 2016 at 21:09  | Reason: Not specified

User
Posted 20 May 2016 at 07:43

I have just added another guy whose name was posted on the Facebook pages.

RIP Graham Williamson who went to join our friends on 15th May, he will, as will those before him, be remembered, we send our sincere condolences to his family.

God Bless
Chris.

User
Posted 20 May 2016 at 08:07

We will never forget our brothers whose will, courage and strength, for a while, gave this hideous disease a right kick in the trollocks.

Bazza

User
Posted 20 May 2016 at 08:32

R.I.P Graham. The struggle is over

We can't control the winds - but we can adjust our sails
User
Posted 20 May 2016 at 09:54

R.I.P graham

run long and prosper
'pooh how do you spell love'
'piglet you dont spell love -you just feel it'
User
Posted 20 May 2016 at 20:43
RIP Graham, that party in the sky is getting riotous! I imagine quite a large amount of Guinness is being swigged up there.
User
Posted 20 May 2016 at 22:16
I didn't know Graham or his family but every man who passes from this disease is family..
RIP Graham
BFN
Julie X
NEVER LAUGH AT A LIVE DRAGON
User
Posted 20 May 2016 at 22:22

Sending condolences to the family. x


 


Fiona.

User
Posted 22 May 2016 at 07:22

And here is another name taken from the Facebook Pages

RIP Michael Harris, who died in April one week after marrying Sue, at the age of 58. Another young life taken away, our very sincere condolences Sue to you and your family.
He has gone to join that great party upstairs.

God Bless
Chris.

User
Posted 22 May 2016 at 07:26

R.I.P. Michael may your family find some peace

regards
nidge

run long and prosper
'pooh how do you spell love'
'piglet you dont spell love -you just feel it'
User
Posted 04 Jul 2016 at 21:28
I haven't been on the message board for some time and it is with huge sadness to read the loss of these great guys.

Allister was a massive comfort, as were many others, when I first joined this forum. His wonderful spirit was second to none. He was a fountain of knowledge and has kept us going over the years. What a fighter. Thank you.

May you all rest in perfect peace.

Carole & Hugh
User
Posted 31 Jul 2016 at 17:46

Thank you, and condolences, Eleanor, preciousislife,for letting me know about your dad, John Muirhead.
RIP John.

May he rest in peace and free of pain.

He has gone to join all our past friends in that great party in the heavens.

God Bless
Chris.

Edited by member 31 Jul 2016 at 17:47  | Reason: Not specified

User
Posted 01 Aug 2016 at 11:40

My thoughts and condolences to his family. xx

User
Posted 01 Aug 2016 at 14:23

Could you add my husband Tim Holden to your list. He died 16th July, aged 69, just 3 days short of 5 years from diagnosis. He died peacefully at home which is what he wanted thanks to our wonderful local hospice nurses.


Linda


 

User
Posted 01 Aug 2016 at 19:25

No sooner said than done Linda.
Our sincere condolences to you and your family at such a sad time.


Such a shame keep having to add all these names, RIP GUYS.

They will all be remembered, their names live on and you all have your cherished memories.

God Bless
Chris

User
Posted 17 Aug 2016 at 13:13

I very much regret having to add another name to the list, RIP Jack Robinson, Jules (jules25a) Father.

Our very sincere condolences to the family.

God Bless you all.

Chris.

Edited by member 17 Aug 2016 at 13:15  | Reason: Not specified

User
Posted 17 Aug 2016 at 16:08

Many condolences to Jules and family.

Rest in peace

*******

We can't control the winds - but we can adjust our sails
User
Posted 17 Aug 2016 at 19:31

RIP jack 🙏🏻

The only time you should look back is to see how far you have come
User
Posted 17 Aug 2016 at 21:57

Adding my condolences and thoughts for another bereaved family. x


 


Fiona.

User
Posted 18 Aug 2016 at 15:46
So sorry to hear the sad news. Our sincere condolences to the family.

Debbie x
User
Posted 08 Sep 2016 at 23:01
I have just added another name to this Absent Friends list, he will not be known to you but he was within my HEALERS 2006 group.

RIP Nigel, at least you aren't now suffering from this disease and have gone to join our other friends in that party up stairs.
Sincere condolences to his family.

Chris.

We have another member, of HEALERS, who has only just been diagnosed who has a spread to the spine.

Edited by member 08 Sep 2016 at 23:01  | Reason: Not specified

User
Posted 25 Sep 2016 at 19:53

Just added another of our members, RIP Phil (glenT)

Sincere condolences Glenda and your family.

God Bless
Chris.

User
Posted 26 Sep 2016 at 21:06

Went to Truro Cathedral today and they are raising funds through a Roof Appeal so we bought a slate in memory of all our friends from A F 3, 4 and 5.

See my page on Facebook

God Bless

Chris.

User
Posted 13 Oct 2016 at 16:32

Just added another name to the list, Stan Joslin on the Facebook pages, only managed two weeks following a prognosis of some months, so sudden but massive spread.

Our very sincere condolences to Norma and her family.

RIP Stan.

I've only just read piglets post, so added Tony to my list too.

Norma and Marje, please accept our very sincere condolences to you and your families.

God Bless, Chris

Edited by member 13 Oct 2016 at 16:57  | Reason: Not specified

User
Posted 13 Oct 2016 at 21:00

Condolences to both these families on the loss of their much loved men. Sending love and thoughts to you all.


 


Fiona. xx


 

User
Posted 16 Oct 2016 at 22:39
Chris , just heard that Kevin vardey has passed so another man down to this terrible disease. He posted on here about a national PSA screening and tried to get his vote passed in parliament.
RIP Kevin
So more sad news
BFN
Julie X
NEVER LAUGH AT A LIVE DRAGON
User
Posted 17 Oct 2016 at 02:07

Sad news. Here it is reported by Kevin's wife Susan.
KEVIN VARDY
Wigan, United Kingdom

16 Oct 2016 — Kevin's courageous and selfless life came to an end at 7 am Sunday 25th September 2016. He died at home where he desired. For 10 long days I sat holding his hands and kissed his last breath away. Privileged to have shared,loved and laughed the last 30 years with this man. He was 54. Please,if any of you are able, carry on his work to raise awareness.

Barry
User
Posted 17 Oct 2016 at 09:29

Thanks guys, it is with regret that I have now added Kevin's name to my list, he fought hard to raise awareness, there is still his petition on the WEB if any of you haven't yet signed it.

I have also added Chris Clark from the Facebook thread who died yesterday.

Very sincere condolences to both Kevin and Chris's families.

RIP KEVIN and CHRIS.

God Bless
Chris

User
Posted 17 Oct 2016 at 09:34
Julie,
Thanks, I did receive details on email from his Petition web site, but didn't post last night, which meant that I could add Chris from Facebook too.

I am still following your thread, and Trevor's up and downs, he, and you are always in our prayers, so hopefully he will continue to see the boys grow up.

With love and Blessings, Chris xx
User
Posted 17 Oct 2016 at 09:42
kevin's petition is on Change.com

If you haven't signed it, now is the time in Kevin's memory.

Chris.

Edited by member 17 Oct 2016 at 11:41  | Reason: Not specified

User
Posted 17 Oct 2016 at 13:32
Does anyone have a link to sign Kevin's petition
 
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