Hello Island Butty and welcome to the site.
It's good that sex isn't affecting any decisions you may or may not make regarding treatment and yes, life itself is more important than the physical act of intimacy and if the pair of you, as a couple, are content with that then it's very very good.
There are younger men on here (I know 58 isn't old - oh to be 58 again!!) but when you have men (and their young wives) in their very early 40s who have their future diminished by this disease then it's a different story.
A man of say, 43, will have had 13 years less than yourself and if you know that your cancer is aggressive and that you are unlikely to make old bones, then sex must be one of the things you'll miss sharing. For many, sex isn't just about the physical act it's about the intimacy that goes with it.
I'm sure many of us, especially the older ones among us, will say that sex isn't the be all and end all of a relationship and we can manage without but for others it's very important.
Good luck with the prostate operation. There are many men on here who have gone that route and I'm sure will be willing to offer their advice. Do you know what kind of operation you are looking at ie open surgery, robotic etc.
Keep watching and posting and I'm sure somebody will be along to offer their take on your post
Edited by member 27 Jan 2016 at 16:23
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We can't control the winds - but we can adjust our sails
Sex. What's that? :(