Just clicked on the link and read Ben's thread. I've just shut the door to my office as I have tears streaming down my face. It was Lyn's "soft blanket" analogy that did it.
I joined the forum last year when my dad was diagnosed with advanced prostate cancer. I don't really post much, preferring to just read others' experiences. As each journey is so different I don't feel the need to ask specific questions relating to my dad's journey as I don't think it would be helpful. What I do find helpful is the general feeling of community on this forum and the knowledge that others are going through similar and even worse than me.
My dad has now developed heart problems which the oncologist attributes to the prostate cancer treatment. However, without the prostate cancer treatment I feel he would already be dead, so thankful for small mercies. I find myself hoping that (much) further down the line my dad will just go to sleep and not wake up as a result of his heart problem, instead of getting to the "end" with prostate cancer as that seems so horrendous.
Ben's thread was so immensely touching - I also found myself feeling tremendously sad for his parents as no parent should go through the loss of their child, no matter what age. I hope they have managed to find some peace.