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Prostate Cancer and my Sex Life

Posted 19 Sep 2016 at 12:07
Can you tell more, and what to do to regain my sex life.I am 15 yes.older than my wife and I am struggling to make her happy. I have used Sildenafil(Viagra)2-Tadalafil(Cialis)--Plus I am taking (Bicalutamide 50mg.and I think this is doing more damage to me.
Posted 19 Sep 2016 at 12:31

I see you are 70 and your wife is 55. I'm guessing you have erection difficulties after prostate cancer treatments ?? A bit more information would be helpful. I know it's quite hard to discuss these things , but effectively the only thing you are missing compared to a healthy person is an erection. Bicalutamide doesn't help with libido I know , but it sounds like you are willing !!
When did you last ask to see an ED nurse. Have you got an erection pump ? Have you tried injectable drugs or pellets or cream that go into the eye of your penis ? There is more you can try !! And if you are both comfortable , have a good shop together on the Lovehoney website. There are LOADS of things that can replace an erection and can still be great fun together. Despite this damn cancer and ED it is still possible to be having far more fun than most of your neighbours. Ask away if you need more help.

If life gives you lemons , then make lemonade

Posted 19 Sep 2016 at 12:41

I have not try the pump as yet,I Will buy one today, and I will see how it work,++what about the tablets I told you about (Bicalutamide 50mg.)I think this tablets is making it worse, tell me more about this tablets.

Posted 19 Sep 2016 at 13:37

Until recently I was taking 150mg of Bicalutamide per day. It is a type of hormone therapy called ADT -androgen deprivation therapy. It reduces your testosterone level quite a bit but , more importantly , it stops your cancer from seeing the testosterone and then using it to grow. Other hormone therapies are more severe and actually try to stop you producing ANY testosterone at all. All these therapies can reduce sexual desire and sexual function. You don't say whether you have had surgery or radiotherapy. Both of these can seriously affect sexual function also. Are you getting any guidance at all ? Don't just buy a pump off the internet. Ideally you can get an appointment to meet someone and be shown how to use the pump and get the right sized construction rings. Also there are other ED drugs you have not tried yet , that can give a man an erection even if he has no nerves left at all on his prostate.

If life gives you lemons , then make lemonade

Posted 19 Sep 2016 at 14:43

We have a similar age gap to you and and your partner, I am a great believer in " you don't need an erection for vaginal intercourse". Have a look at the conversation " erecting the erection" put the phrase into the search box above also try googling "flacid intercourse". We use a variety of methods both chemical, mechanical and natural and have very fulfilling love making.

Thanks Chris

Posted 19 Sep 2016 at 15:41

Diagnosis (T2 NO M1 Gleason 3+4=7 adenocarcinoma of prostate in7/28 cores,diagnosed on transperineal. template biopsy March 2015 Presenting PSA 24.=====(Treatment: LHRH hormones commenced 16:04:2015::)++Bone scan Oct:2015-sinal mets.++ Bicalutamide added August 2016 due to PSA rise.---+Could you explain what all of that mean in small man term.

Posted 19 Sep 2016 at 17:14

Hi again
I feel that you would really benefit from talking to the specialist nurses on this site. Totally free to call and they can expertly answer any of your questions as capably as your GP. This would be a great option for you as sadly it seems you are not fully understanding your diagnosis , prognosis and side-effects etc. It would make you far more comfortable if you felt on top of it all. If you are uncomfortable chatting , there is an option where you can type to each other instead of talk

If life gives you lemons , then make lemonade

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