I've posted elsewhere about my dad's recent diagnosis with what we think is locally (?) advanced PCa: http://community.prostatecanceruk.org/posts/t12204-Dad-diagnosed--prognosis-not-great#post152257
Just to recap, he's T4 N1 M0, Gleason 9, PSA 12.3.
He's waiting for the first oncology appointment - he was diagnosed by a consultant urologist. He had wanted me to accompany him to the appointment, which I also wanted to do, partly as moral support and partly to be an advocate for him, take notes and so on. (I'm his eldest daughter, 31). For that reason, he specifically asked the hospital to book him in for NEXT week (i.e. week beginning 5th Dec), as I'm on a business trip this week, and they promised to arrange it that way.
This afternoon he got a letter from the hospital: please come in this Monday 28th Nov at 10am! I won't be here. Either he will have to go alone, or I will have to cancel/postpone my trip (which will make me extremely unpopular at work, because it's on quite sensitive business). Or my younger sister could accompany him, but she deals with these situations in a very different way, and I think it would be more upsetting for her than helpful for my dad.
I assume it's too late to call them tomorrow and ask to rearrange it? I don't know if there are many hospital admin staff around on Sundays.
What can he expect to be told during this first oncology visit? Presumably a treatment plan - but are they going to turn around and say 'we think you have X years to live?' I don't want my dad to be alone when he hears that.