The thing with HT is that it sort of reverses our adolescence, takes us back to our boyhood. I know that when I have been on HT I start making Airfix kits. Ships, planes, cars and trains fill the space in my mind that was otherwise full of salacious thoughts.
Before I developed PCa, I was always ready to make love, any time, any place, any where, my partner never needed to initiate sex, all she needed to do was show willing to my advances. But once on HT, it never occurs to me to start something I cannot finish, and while I might respond to her advances, to do my duty so to speak, it is not the same.
The thing with love making is that us chaps can't really fake it can we, so why we might try our hardest, that is seldom hard enough, our lack of vigour and enthusiasm shines through, to some extent all we are doing is reminding ourselves of what we are missing?
You say your partner has locally advanced PCa, what is his prognosis, is he on HT forever, or is it being offered as part of a package of potentially curative treatment?
I think that is important, throughout my time on HT, I had the hope, the dream that my libido might return. That dream was enough to keep me practising with a vacuum pump and Viagra. I knew that I wasn't going to achieve anything remarkable, and just saw it as essential maintenance for my wedding tackle, so that when the great day came when I stopped HT I would be able to rise to the occasion.
But had my diagnosis been such that I was on HT until the day I die, that motivation wouldn't have existed.
Are you aware of intermittent HT, there is a school of thought that we last longer if HT is used sparingly, a break allows our bodies to recover. Your other half might want to consider that?
Then of course there is the latest 'flood and drought' treatment coming along, it is only trials at the moment, but I would love to have a go, a few shots of extra testosterone would hopefully supercharge my libido and my wife might need to be careful about what she wished for?