Recent diagnosis for my father

Yeah, despite what the above may suggest I think I'm doing a good job of remaining calm and pragmatic so far. I agree that it's important to help keep things on an even keel.

Thanks again.

You are jumping the gun. Has he had a biopsy or not ?

Do have a look around this site and download toolkit .

The key will be staging and Gleason.

. Gathering all the facts

Cross each bridge etc..

Is your dad going to appointments with anyone else ?

Click my profile to see my basic info. There's a fair amount to understand

At your dad's age and assuming he is fit and healthy , numourous options will be available.

Again that decision to be made when all facts assimilated.

http://prostatecanceruk.org/prostate-information/just-diagnosed/what-do-my-test-results-mean

Tnm stage and gleason . Key indicators.

Psa less so at this stage. However together with a mpMRI will give the team and yourselves the best data available currently to ascertain where dad is currently.

Both myself and my brother were intermediate. Ie medium risk . Even though the amount of lesion/mutant cells where small.

All the best and welcome

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Hello all,

@LynEyre: Thank you for your kinds and thoughtful replies. My Dad's had the biopsy and that came back positive for cancer.
I'm not sure re the PSA. I'll check and come back.

@robgsr: Thanks, I'll take a look at all of that. He's got an appointment with a Oncologist today. And thank you very much for the welcome.

@lola52: Sorry to hear about your husband too. What you say makes a lot of sense. Best of luck with the appointment with the urologist tomorrow.

Thanks all. Will post more when I know more.

Hello and welcome from me too Tom.

When dad goes for his results it would be a good idea for somebody (you perhaps?) to go with him. There is such a lot to take in when all that information is being thrown at you.

It's also a good idea to write down any questions. If you have managed to download the Toolkit from Publications as has already been suggested, it might give you ideas on what questions to ask.

Good luck to dad for his results anyway.

Hello all,

So the appointment went ahead today. My mom went along with my dad (as I live quite far away and it's difficult to judge when's best to draw me in), but we'd discussed some of the basic things that she needed to ascertain.

The meeting with the Oncologist was intriguing. From from I understand it's a T3 and graded 8. Apparently he's had it for quite a long time and it's spread outside to the glands just behind the prostate. And it's recently become aggressive too. All pretty bad so far. However, the oncologist was very positive and she said she felt confident that it could be contained. They're doing the CAT scan and the bone scan as a precautionary measure apparently.

My Dad's still shaken but my Mom left in a much more positive place than when she went in. Given all the sigs and signs we'd got before, I was expecting a much worse prognosis that what we've got.

So by no means over the hill with this and we're not deluding ourselves that everything's fine and dandy but it isn't over yet and it's not the death sentence that we feared. All in all we're happy and grateful for what's happened and the support that we've received.

I now have a long list of tasks to do, swatting up on Prostate cancer and various other diagnosis related tasks that have dropped into my inbox. :)

Thank you everyone.

Thanks for update.

Feel free to ask anything. . CT and bone scan will give more information.

Do cut / paste key info. Into your profile please so will help others should you post more or start another thread.

As Lyn states..agree.. tell dad the term aggressive is a relative term.

Gordon