debz
hi and welcome to the forum
its all a bit overwhelming at first trying to understand why and what to do
how is hubby, by that I mean is he burying head in the sand or looking to tackle it head on
firstly get the toolkit from this site, it explains about all your options but don't rush in to any or get bullied into any, it will be your choice
once you have an idea on what option you would like look on here via the search engine it will give you other peoples experiance of it
just try to remember you are not alone with this, because at times you will think you are
the specialist nurses on here are fantastic
take time to understand the outcome of your decision as you will both living with it
regards
nidge