Thanks for the reply. We have seen 2 consultants at different hospitals, he is going to be treated at the regional centre and I know the surgeons there are great. Its robotic surgery that he is having. We did talk through all the positives and negatives and both decided that surgery is the better option. But when we went to see the regional consultant he said there wasnt a choice of radiotherapy vs surgery. He must have the surgery, then if necessary, radiotherapy to 'mop up' anything left behind. So we are positive we have made the right decision in the 1st place. The kids have handled it well and we are being transparent with them. Our daughter is sleepwalking and keeps having tummy aches, always at night before she goes to sleep. But we are just talking through her worries & having lots of cuddles and kisses and laughter when possible & school have been great with both my 13yo and 10yo. I suppose as my hubby feels well at the moment, to the kids, nothing has changed. My worry is that he is being so ultra positive about it all & not talking about it that there is no realism there & it will hit him after the surgery. I, on the other hand am an emotional wreck & feel weak at the side of him. Surely it should be the other way round?