Sincere thanks to all for your replies. I'm never quite sure if it's a good idea to ask these questions as different people have different reactions to their op. It's all a bit real and in your face! The thought of self catheterisation fills me with dread!
Colwickchris when you say, "My guy did try and avoid cutting into the scar tissue in an attempt to avoid incontinence issues."
I'm trying to understand why this would be. I thought the prostate controls the leakage not the urethra. Really showing my ignorance now I'm afraid.
I'm off to search "stricture" now thanks Lynn.