Thanks everyone, I appreciate your taking the time to respond, and in some perverse way glad to hear my issue,
I’ve now seen the consultant, and the good news is I’m clear of the cancer and all within peramiters. I had nodes and nerves removed from right side so this, from what I’m hearing from you all, may be part of the incontinence problem. Meanwhile the consultant has apparently made an urgent appointment for me to see the continence nurse and physio.
I have been doing PFE regularly since about 6 weeks before the op, with the only time not doing them when the catheter was in. I’m doing them between 6 and 8 times a day, but whether it’s properly is another question but was told by a urology nurse (who made me drop em and do them in front of her) that I was. However, my problem is immediately after I stop the exercises I leak, and when standing or walking around I dribble for England., oh and I ocasionally get a pain in the perineum after exercising. As for what I’m drinking, probably 4 or 5 cups of decaf tea/coffee and a couple of glasses of cranberry juice and A glass or two of water a day. I did have a utrinary infection which cleared up after a course of antibiotics - I had that rechecked and am OK.
I haven’t tried the measuring business yet, but will give that a go, and the pads I use are Tena medium during the day. I haven’t been brave enough to try sleeping without a night pad on as so far they’re pretty full when I get up,
Pragmatically, I will have to persevere with it and hope things do start to get better, and also wait and see what the continence specialist and physio say.
Thanks again everyone for your input.