For what it's worth, another vote for Tena Men (the medium pads). The main reason is that they have them on the shelves at the local Tesco, so I can buy a pack at a time hoping it might be the last!
Actually that psychology has been going on for two years with improvement rather slow. What seems to happen is that I am dry for the first half of the day and then leak towards the evening. Many days I find I could have managed with a much lighter pad, but occasionally I leak much more so I have to play safe. The amount of leak seems to depend on how much strain the sphincter has been under, and thus how tired it is later in the day. Thus leak is more if I have been using my abdominal muscles, perhaps digging the garden, or having a bad cough. Actually the most frequent reason is having held a full bladder at some point in the morning; while I can try to avoid that by going to the toilet before I feel totally full, I don't worry too much since I suspect it provides much better muscle-building exercise than the conscious pelvic floor exercises since it works on the actual urinary sphincter rather than the adjacent voluntary muscle of the pelvic floor.
You have to have a positive attitude and for me although incontinence is not something I would choose, one pad a day (very occasionally two) is manageable. There is a report of improvements continuing for up to 4 years after prostatectomy (https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/26293181) so I can still dream of getting down to just the very light "protective shield" pads.