I'm just over a year post radical prostatectomy and lymph node removal. I guess I am lucky to be alive as the cancer was quite aggressive and all signs are that my wonderful surgeon managed to remove all the cancer and my PSA <0.02. My sex life before being diagnosed was relatively poor, my wife had lost interest in sex after the birth of our second child and sex had been virtually non-existent since she went through the menopause. I was at least able to have some form of relief through masturbation but since the operation, even this has become difficult but I can orgasm at times. I have tried using a pump for an erection and found it very painful to apply the constriction ring, injections worked but became very painful and there was no real sensation in the penis. I am now trying Sildenafil with limited success but am wondering if this the effect would be better with a bit more encouragement from my wife. And there is the problem, she is not interested and all attempts at any sexual contact are rebuffed. I love my wife but am becoming more resentful over her coldness towards me - am I alone in the way I feel and has anyone else found a solution to this problem?