A cautionary warning to all of us Daniel. Thank you.
Thankfully my husband wanted me involved from the start and if anything it has brought us even closer together even although our sex life has had to take a bit of a back seat due to non nerve sparing.( although we both knew the consequences prior to surgery)
I obviously don't know what your relationship was like before the cancer but how are you now? Are you in remission? Did you have successful nerve sparing?
It is never too late to try and rekindle your relationship with your wife.
Have you tried talking to each other about your feelings. I doubt after 45 years either of you would want to throw the towel in.
Would you both be open to perhaps going for counselling?
This disease can and does test relationships to the limit but you can come through it perhaps with a lot of effort. Don't give up on each other.
Regards
Ann