I am sorry you had to fork out for a private operation when the NHS should have been there for you.
Since my operation I was virtually continent from day 10 when the catheter was removed, and I can sit in a pub and drink six pints without moving, when some friends have to get up twice. I often ask them “Got a bit of prostate trouble then?”
However, I now seem to have nocturia (the urge to urinate at night, one of the symptoms of prostate trouble), which I didn’t have before. I perhaps have to get up every two or three hours. It’s no problem as I only sleep around five hours a night, but sometimes have a lie-in till 5am.