I haven’t noticed you have told us S’s age, or did I miss it?
I think it’s fair to say that most surgeons want to surge, and most oncologists want to attack you with either their ray-guns or toxic chemicals. The outcomes (morbidity rates) these days are broadly similar.
I consulted with two surgeons and one oncologist before electing for surgery, and all three said surgery was my best bet. Mistake.
I am supposed to be cured now. One surgeon offered non-sparing and the other nerve sparing on one side. It has made no difference as I have no erectile function, but then I have no cancer (subject to another PSA test tomorrow....).
I think my best advice to you and Mr S is to take your time, step back and request second opinions from both another surgeon who is not interested in flogging you a motor, and an oncologist. There are so many “what ifs” with this disease. I think you are entitled to those two additional consultations on the NHS.
I sometimes wonder ‘what if’ I had done nothing and still had hard-ons and ejaculatory orgasms for however long, but we had no idea how fast my tumour was spreading as there was a long gap between my normal PSA test and the raised one.
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Anyway, I have never felt so well, and the best of luck to you and S whichever path you choose to take. Do let us know.
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