My dad is 75, almost 76. He has been having bladder issues for a while, needing to urinate frequently. And has had chronic back pain for a few years. Back and to to doctors with UTIs for the last 12 months. Yesterday he got results from his psa (dad went on his own and can't remember the actual figures...!) his physical was fine and thye couldn't feel anything untoward, but the results were worrying and they're sending him for further tests at the hospital.
I've done a lot of reading and it looks like in early stages prostate cancer is very much survivable, especially at my dad's age because his life expectancy is likely to be shorter than how fast the cancer would spread. However I am terrified that it's spread, especially with how bad his back pain has been for the last few years. He has always been a frequent pee-er. I remember being a young kid (I'm 29 now) and we would have to make frequent rest stops on long journeys for dad to wee. But over the last 5 years or so it's got worse, he can't go anywhere without a loo. My dad is overweight, and tbh we have put it down to this, he is bad on his feet and sometimes is incontinent if he cannot get up and get to a toilet quickly enough, however he isn't incontinent in the way of urine comes out without him being aware of needing the bathroom.
Basically I'm looking for some advice I suppose from people in the know, if his physical was clear (no lumps, no worrying swelling) but his psa was high, is it still possible that cancer is advanced? I know rhat a high psa doesn't necessarily mean he has cancer, however I do think they will find cancer in his prostate considering his urinating issues. But it's how advanced it could be that is terrifying me.
As I say j don't know his psa score from the test as he went alone and he's a bit rubbish and remembering the details, and doesn't think to ask, but I'm assuming it's unusually high as they're sending him for additional testing, unsure if this is an mri or biopsy.
I've never had someone close to me have cancer and I am very much in the dark about the illness, other than its a horrible horrible thing to be diagnosed with. Any advice, support or reassurance is very much appreciated. And I'm sorry for my absolute naivety where the facts are concerned!
Thanks Steph xx