Thanks to everyone for their reply and sharing their story, it really puts things into perspective for me. Especially when like Lyn said lots of people who are in remission are no longer active on this site, it's easy to forget this fact. I think I was being naïve, clinically hubby was staged at T3a, so when he was staged by pathology as T2c I was obviously much happier, because like you say Luther the staging is often worse on pathology.
Francij1 - thanks for taking the time to find out hubby has a 98% chance of surviving PCa, they are pretty good odds, and have made me feel much better.
The PSA anxiety seems to be bothering me more than hubby, I know there's no way of avoiding this and we just have to go through it like many many others, and I do feel bad worrying on here when there are many men and their loved ones going through so much more. Cancer just makes me feel very frightened, each case is different and I can't help but fear the worse, especially after reading some of the very sad stories on this site.
Thanks again to each of you, I don't know where I'd be without this site sometimes!