Waiting for surgery but having second thoughts.

Only you can make your decision as only you will live with the consequences, and hopefully for a long long time!

I wonder, what made you make your initial treatment choice in the first place?

And then, is it really a few stories here of ED, incontinence and a shorter penis that has caused doubts? So you weren't worried about the possibility of death?

At my RRP it was explained to me that there was a 1 in 400 chance of death on the table. Make sure you are not number 400. More likely then, there is a chance of not death.

Incontinence - is a possibility. Equally, no loss of incontinence is a possibility.

Erectile disfunction - is a possibility. Complete loss, partial loss, intermittent loss. Oh, and don't forget the possibility of no loss. You may be as rampant as before.

Statistics of so many thousands of people who have had what you may be contemplating are a guide, sure. But the only statistic that matters to you is your statistic.

When you make your choice make it the best choice on the information you have at the time, and then don't look back. No point.

You will read of men who chose surgery, as that was apparently the best option for them on the information available at the time. Then on having surgery their cancer had spread but did not show on an MRI, and they then express regrets.

I was T2a on diagnosis, sadly upgraded to T3 on pathology. Thank goodness I made a choice quickly and had its out when I did.

Have a look at my profile, and you will see how successful I and my recovery has been. I have no regrets.

BUT, it may not be the same for you.

You are at the worst stage, where all have been with PCa.

atb

dave

Countryboy99  - Evening Dave, thanks for the reply. I suppose my initial treatment choice of surgery was made after I heard about an old friend whose first symptom was back pain - he’d gone within the year. My thinking was that removing the prostate, with all the cancer cells contained within it, has to be more reliable than other therapies that might not zap them all.  The risks and possible side affects of surgery are a real worry to me but the thought of going through RT and having the cancer come back is a bigger concern.  Really pleased your recovery has gone so well, hope for us all.

Chris - Many thanks for the info. I have a few weeks before my appointment so have time to look into all options.

LynEyre - Thanks for the info. I have only seen my urologist so far, he was the one that suggested the two options, but both him and the Macmillan nurse recommended surgery for my case. My meeting with the surgeon isn’t for a few weeks yet, I’ll definitely ask him about the nerve sparing. I’m intrigued now, why wouldn’t a surgeon want to operate on a man with my diagnosis?

Got me worried for a minute. I’m being sent to another hospital for the robotic surgery as my local urologist doesn’t do it. I rather glad really, the other hospital has a very good reputation for the procedure. 

Hi Neil,

All the best, pure coincidence I was updating my profile and had a quick peruse of posts. I've not been on forum for ages.    Feel free to view my profile (which includes info on my brother, he choose RT (he was offered Surgery as an option at 70 yo)). 

Key points =  I was dry after 24 hrs.  Non Nerve Sparing.    ED was a 'challenge' however after +3 yrs quite acceptable and still improving very very slowing. I'm now 4 yrs post op.   The  'PDE5 variants',  had little or no positive  effect, just a 24 hr hangover !, I gave up on them after 6 months.  I take zero meds,

Obviously no semen, which in itself takes getting used to for both partners.   Climacturia very occasionally , (yes I had to  google it !) and spontaneous erections I don't expect, (ie plenty of constant stimulation required) .   

For some reason  I'm  on quarterly PSA testing, although was 6 monthly, however I don't say anything.   Currently 0.02, it has been 'up' to this before and then 0.01.      Worries wife a lot more than me, as 'testing' time comes around.   I hope this helps.           

My birthday at 64 the other day, my older sister phoned me and then reminded me I'm older than our dad had lived (he died PCa at 63).  That puts things very much in perspective. I'm so fortunate.        

robgsr - Glad your procedure went well and you're now out of the woods. To be honest, if the surgeon says he needs to take the nerves I’m not going to object, my life is more important. Like you, I’ve already outlived my father (lung cancer at 63) as you say it does put things into perspective. 

Thanks John, just placed the order for the Toolkit.

 

"urologist - can only recommend a urological solution. That is their specialism. It's all they know"

Not always the case Dave, my Surgeon said he would remove my Prostate if I was set on it but said he was doubtful he could remove all the cancer so he recommended RT.  In fact he personally introduced me to an Oncologist who was in a nearby office.   There have been other cases too where Urologists have recommended RT over surgery for various reasons.  It is right though that where surgery is a good option Surgeons will recommend their discipline, especially where this treatment is backed by the MDT.

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