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Orgasm doesn’t get beyond the bands

User
Posted 25 Apr 2019 at 22:46

Using my pump regularly and achieving and maintaining a good erection with two bands to hold it in place. This is good enough for full intercourse to a minor orgasm but my orgasm seems to stop at the bands - should I be grateful for this or has anyone got any suggestions to get me all the way.  If I use one band I can’t maintain the erection.  Will a change of band to the Durex ones mentioned help? 

User
Posted 26 Apr 2019 at 07:50

B

From my personal experience it does take some experimenting to get it right and there is also natural recovery that also affects results. A tight ring can  maintain the "erection" but it can make the penis cold and less sensitive. A larger and or softer ring may be less effective but increase the sensitivity. CJ put me on to the durex rings and they do work well, again two softer durex rings may work better than one tighter ring. 

Google "flaccid intercourse" if you can master the technique, you will both enjoy yourselves and using the rings improves the experience.  Make sure the windows are  closed, the orgasm for me is out of this world. Your body is still recovering and even if you do not fully recover your natural erections thing do get better.

Someone was going to test what a recovered "erection" was actually like, i.e. does it point upwards as pre surgery or is it fully swollen but hangs down.

No doubt CJ and Lyn will be along to help. 

Keep experimenting and have fun you don't say if you op was nerve sparing or non nerve sparing.

Thanks Chris

 

User
Posted 26 Apr 2019 at 11:01
I don’t get what you mean by orgasm stopping at the bands ?? At first my orgasms were tiny and weak but 4 yrs on are just getting better and better. Something has been removed inside of you and not replaced with anything. I used to call it the inside ‘ root ‘ of a full erection. After surgery that is gone and the squeezing deep inside on orgasm disappeared for a long long time. When you use the bands you have a hard penis but zero root , so the orgasm is just at the tip. After 3 yrs of daily Cialis I now have a full erection with a restored root and a squeezing big orgasm as pre-op. Despite permanent use of a pump I’ve lost around 2”

Don’t give up !

If life gives you lemons , then make lemonade

User
Posted 26 Apr 2019 at 11:24
Practice makes perfect!

I seem to have phases when I can't orgasm with intercourse at all, initially I think it was the shock I got it up and then self doubt about keeping it up!

I took the advice offered on here at the time and tried it while "pissed", having the extra relaxation made all the difference!!

Currently orgasms are good and indistinguishable from previous - sometimes I even think there will be something to "clear up" it's that good!

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User
Posted 26 Apr 2019 at 07:50

B

From my personal experience it does take some experimenting to get it right and there is also natural recovery that also affects results. A tight ring can  maintain the "erection" but it can make the penis cold and less sensitive. A larger and or softer ring may be less effective but increase the sensitivity. CJ put me on to the durex rings and they do work well, again two softer durex rings may work better than one tighter ring. 

Google "flaccid intercourse" if you can master the technique, you will both enjoy yourselves and using the rings improves the experience.  Make sure the windows are  closed, the orgasm for me is out of this world. Your body is still recovering and even if you do not fully recover your natural erections thing do get better.

Someone was going to test what a recovered "erection" was actually like, i.e. does it point upwards as pre surgery or is it fully swollen but hangs down.

No doubt CJ and Lyn will be along to help. 

Keep experimenting and have fun you don't say if you op was nerve sparing or non nerve sparing.

Thanks Chris

 

User
Posted 26 Apr 2019 at 11:01
I don’t get what you mean by orgasm stopping at the bands ?? At first my orgasms were tiny and weak but 4 yrs on are just getting better and better. Something has been removed inside of you and not replaced with anything. I used to call it the inside ‘ root ‘ of a full erection. After surgery that is gone and the squeezing deep inside on orgasm disappeared for a long long time. When you use the bands you have a hard penis but zero root , so the orgasm is just at the tip. After 3 yrs of daily Cialis I now have a full erection with a restored root and a squeezing big orgasm as pre-op. Despite permanent use of a pump I’ve lost around 2”

Don’t give up !

If life gives you lemons , then make lemonade

User
Posted 26 Apr 2019 at 11:24
Practice makes perfect!

I seem to have phases when I can't orgasm with intercourse at all, initially I think it was the shock I got it up and then self doubt about keeping it up!

I took the advice offered on here at the time and tried it while "pissed", having the extra relaxation made all the difference!!

Currently orgasms are good and indistinguishable from previous - sometimes I even think there will be something to "clear up" it's that good!

User
Posted 26 Apr 2019 at 16:07
Barbs, did you mean that there is no ejaculation?
"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." Soren Kierkegaard

 
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