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Posted 16 May 2019 at 12:59

Hi I am new to all this so a bit of background my huband had his prostate and lymph glands removed in January he was making  a good  recovery and was allmost back tohis normal self  then a few weeks ago he was hit with what turns out to be a nasty infection they aren't sure where  the infection is so have just thrown super strength antibiotics at it. They do seem to be working and he does seem to be a little better. Yesterday he had an appointment with the surgeon who did the opperation he seemed very dismissive when we told him how ill he has been recently . Then went on to tell him the cancer would deffinately return. We both allready new this but the man doesn't have much of a bed side manner and to be told this in quite such a brutal manner was very unsettling to say the least.  My husband is very down about the whole sittuation and I am at a loss how to help him. I listen and we talk openly about what the future holds. We are off on holiday very soon and I am hoping this will help. 

Posted 16 May 2019 at 13:15
If you give us some more information about your husband’s condition, such as PSA level, Gleason score, pre and post-operative histology results, cancer staging - i.e. T?N?M?, the good people here might be able to give you better advice.

Enjoy your hols in any case.

Cheers, John

Posted 16 May 2019 at 16:33

Try to enjoy each day as it comes and make the most of every experience. There are many options in the keeping of pc at bay. If you feel you need advice, ask to speak to a specialist nurse who can give you the answers to any questions in an empathic way.

Posted 16 May 2019 at 23:38

We once met a doctor with an unsettling manner and it took a couple of days to put it in perspective.  When I read your note my first thought was the illness is probably nothing to do with the operation.  It's curious about why he said it will definitely come back. There must be a reason. You can only take one step at a time and presumably it hasn't come back now so he's not got a detectable level of psa now.

Posted 16 May 2019 at 23:58
Alihi, did the surgeon mention the pathology results from the operation? Was he saying that the results were not good? If you are unsure what was being said, it is worth asking the GP to provide you with a copy of the letter from surgeon when it arrives (the surgeon will write to the GP with the pathology findings and you are entitled to a copy of that letter).

Once you have the pathology, post it here and we will try to help make sense of it.

"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." Soren Kierkegaard

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