Hi everyone,
I'm posting about my dad, who I'm really worried about as my grandfather died of advanced prostate cancer nearly 30 years ago now, and I'm worried that my dad is becoming fatalistic about it, and in denial at the same time!
My dad will be 78 years old this year and has had a problem with frequent urination for many years, slowly getting worse as nowadays he gets up 3-4 times a night to use the bathroom. We also cannot go out without him searching for a public toilet after a couple of hours. He gets embarrassed discussing his pee problems, like my grandfather was, and so hasn't talked to a doctor for many years about it, just accepting it as part of getting older.
Now my dad doesn't live in the UK, and where he lives, there isn't an established medical system where patients are under the primary care of a GP etc. My dad pays privately to get all his bloods done - he and my mum have been doing this for years, cholesterol checks etc. and he has also been monitoring his PSA, mindful of my grandfather's demise from PC (he was diagnosed late when he was about 80 or 81, and lived to 84).
Sometime in 2017, his PSA was 9. He mentioned having a higher score last year (2018) but neglected to tell us what it was. Recently, he went for another PSA test and it was 14.6. He is now saying he wants to take supplements and herbs and to watch/wait for another 1-2 months before taking another PSA test - before deciding to consult a doctor. Of course I'm worried sick that this is an unnecessary delay and he could be risking a spread of PC if he does not get a diagnosis fast enough. The steady rise is enough to worry me - as well as the frequent toilet trips which have worsened slightly in the last 4-5 years.
Am I right to worry and is it OK for him to wait another 1-2 months to consult the urologist? At his age, is it safe to wait - I've read rather contradictory info on this.
Thanks for any insights/feedback!
Worried Daughter