It's good that you have support from a psychologist.
Could it be that your wife doesn't want to pressure you into sex, fearing that PCa might mean you can't perform and depress you further, but actually you would both like the same thing without realising it? Ultimately, you will need to find a way to communicate, to discover what the issue is. Maybe approaching the subject without indicating it's a big issue for you initially, giving her the opportunity to say from her side without fearing she's letting you down - perhaps approach it like you're worried you are letting her down, and you don't want to do that.
Another suggestion is to call the specialist nurse number at the top of this page. Most of the calls they get are for emotional issues, and they may have some helpful ideas on how to do this, or where to get advice.
I think your issue is not uncommon in non-PCa couples. I'm sure others will be along with suggestions too.
Edited by member 28 May 2019 at 17:23
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