Sorry to hear of his experience - it is quite possible to get secondary cancers while the symptoms from the primary site are negligible or non-existent, and while the brain isn't the first place that generally gets metastases from prostate, it certainly is not rare. Additionally, identification of a metastatic tumour does not always make identifying the primary tumour an easy task, sadly.
Prostate cancer is - relatively speaking - a slow cancer; time is not so pressing as for many other cancers. But having said that, by now, I think, he should have a fairly good idea what the strategy is, provided all the planned investigations have happened. Has he had a prostate biopsy yet?
Would your father have kept you in the picture?
If so, and as you are worried, the first thing to do is go with him to his GP and ask what's going on ...