lost sexual function desire and libido

Norman,

There are things you can try, and it's worth asking for an ED clinic appointment unless your GP is knowledgeable in this area. As a PCa patient, you are entitled to referral for ED.

It certainly is worth asking to try out a PDE5 inhibitor, such as sildenafil (Viagra). You do need some arousal for it to work, but it amplifies the effect.

You can look into using erotica or soft porn which can help some people, but you must be careful it doesn't damage your relationship - it would need to be something you both agree to, and not leave one or both of you uncomfortable.

You might look at doing some things you haven't tried before. Addition of sex toys such as vibrators might help. Also, if you have traditionally lead, try swapping roles, possibly combined with S&M restraints, handjob/blowjob, etc

Expect some of the things you tried to fail. Be ready with kisses, cuddles, touch, etc. Think back to things you might have done in teenage courtship before full blown sex, and play those out again. Some people find that can be very rewarding, and take the stress out of performing sex.

Sex may change, but don't assume it's over yet.

The premise is to reduce testosterone to virtually castration level, to stop the cancer feeding off it, so inevitably your sexual desire is likely to be inhibited as a result, although it might save your life.

There was a poor bugger from India on here a few months ago who elected for actual castration rather than HT as he and his family were unable to afford the HT drugs.

So I hope you end up having sufficient testosterone floating around to continue with your sex life, maybe augmented by chemical assistance?

Best of luck.

Cheers, John.

Hi Norman,

                   I am on prostrap3 and I have finished my chemo, awaiting radiotherapy. As francij1 said:

'But it does rob you of the desire to chase after "it" so will need conscious and determined effort from yourself our your partner if you want a chance of keeping it'

I went to an Ed clinic because I wanted to keep my sex life alive even if it does take me to focus and make a concerted effort. I'm using Cialis 5mg a day however as time has gone on I need 20mg + some Viagra ( not recommended by many on here but works for me )to get a rock hard erection. I use a pump from the NHS for maintenance rather than penetration which helps a lot and also I use a durex cock ring which also helps. I am using every tool in the toolbox ( no pun intended ) to make my relationship as normal as possible.

As Andy says try everything and anything, I'm sure your partner will be pleased you at least make the effort.

Chris