Death of Normal Sex??

Dear Adore 

I was drinking every day well almost...But with limits.Im a Close protections officer and a Chauffeur for private individuals 

Stupidly I had to ho ahead with RP operation last year even when I wasn't suffering much and no history of prostate even in my extended family members.

Anyways nearly a year ago had to go ahead RP operation since than I became a priest....after the operation they advised me to use caverject to help to have sex yes my sex life is not so bad even I do complain about it but in my opinion use of pump daily is more effects than anything else.yes it's a boring things to do but that's our part of fates now.also As lyn  says public floor exercises is a must..

Re alchol...I lived in your country (Tennessee) banned for driving over there because of I was over the drink limits .

Being alcoholic is not an excuse for anything it's kinda self choices really. 

Maybe this is not appropriate my apologies please but I was always adventures re sex life I'm a members of swingers clubs ,sauna etc.so that way I have a colourful sex life.

I know every body is different but if anybody is around age of 50 something than they shouldn't given up of sex life.easly!!

Regards

D.R

While every patient is different, you can still be optimistic. You are at a very early stage.

In my case (only one nerve spared) like your husband I started to feel "stirrings" not long after starting on the tadalafil, but any changes weren't visible. I also began using the pump, its function is primarily to preserve the elasticity of the erectile tissue which is a crucial property. Slowly over the next several months my penis became more responsive and eventually capable of a full blown erection, though it has never got back to coming as easily as it used to . However my wife and I do now have a similar level of sex life as before, it just takes longer and I depend on her patience and assistance.

That slight response your husband feels is very encouraging. Just hang on in there.

Harry 

I don't think there are any easy ways to recover from ED , you have got to experiment and work at it. Have you had any appointments with an ED nurse or doctor since your surgery, what have you tried ? There  numerous conversations on here with help, advice and personal experiences.

Thanks Chris

Edited by member 23 Dec 2019 at 07:51  | Reason: Not specified

Harry,

Can you give a timeline:
When you had surgery, was it nerve sparing, or partial, or none?
Timeline of what ED drugs or appliances you have tried since then, and if any of them gave you even the slightest feel of arousal, even if no visible effect?

Many people I counsel are on wrong treatments after prostatectomy, because many GP's don't understand the purpose of the treatments at this stage. Getting the treatments corrected can get things moving.

Thanks Andy

PSA is almost zero with tests done every 3 months and these will carry in at these intervals for a few years to come .
As far as ED goes as I am in hypertension medication the various Cardiologist Consultants I visit frown at the mention of any medicines for ED.I have good sensation as the surgery was well performed and nerves were significantly preserved .But old Percy still remains stubborn and refuses to rise to any occasion .

So I will try and find some private ED nurse consultations and see what happens but it is not a pleasant position to be especially when trying to forge any new relationship.

As some potential partners can be terribly unsympathetic or ignorant to such challenges 

Thanks Lyn 

I will try the NHS route and see where that leads to .

Her Loveliness and I attempted a form of sexual congress last week on our cruise, but as we had asked for the king-sized bed to be split into two, (I am up and about 4am), the resulting single beds were too narrow for two simultaneously.

In the words of Billie-Jo Spears, we tried a duvet ‘on the ground’ without success. Laughing, we got dressed and made for the bar.

Moral of the story? Don’t get old!

Cheers, John.

Thank you all for all the encouraging comments and ideas of how to improve my severe ED problem.

I guess given my partner left me immediately post operation I lost interest and I neglected that area and focussed on business instead .

So partly my own fault for becoming so disinterested after a slow recovery and a rather disingenuous partner .

But thank you all