Hi John, I am nearly the same age as you with a near identical diagnosis, but 24 months ahead of you in the treatment. G4+5 T3N0M0 PSA 25ish (it was different on 3 tests), 95% cancer on biopsy. I don't know if I was T3a, T3b they never said.
After the first MRI, but before full diagnosis, surgery was mentioned, and I was warned that adjuvant RT would almost certainly be required to deal with local advanced spread, so two lots of side effects to deal with. After biopsy I had the formal diagnosis meeting when I was given the gleason, percent cancer etc. I said "oh dear, I was expecting G6 and something trivial like active surveillance" he replied "that is not a sensible option, sensible treatment for you is two years ADT, HDR brachy, 15 fractions EBRT.". I mentioned that I sort of liked the idea of surgery (to just be rid of it), he said we will have an MDT meeting and see what happens.
Next meeting the treatment offered was as above. I am rather cynical, so my thoughts are that my prognosis (and sadly yours too) is not good, and no surgeon would want to operate on someone where the chance of clear margins is probably zero so the chance of recurrence is high, we would just make their statistics look bad.
I didn't push for surgery I can see that the treatment offered has as good an outcome as surgery, and my initial thoughts about surgery was based on an emotional desire to have the cancer cut out.
Anyway I had the treatment they recommended. As it happens today is the day the zoladex finally leaves my system, so hopefully I will start to recover from the side effects.
As I have said in numerous posts I was lucky that I was not troubled much by side effects, but do miss my labido and will be glad to get my mojo back.
I haven't noticed much in the way of side effects from RT (there are some to do with the bowels but they are not severe).
I can still get a hard on, with a lot of effort, and an orgasm which is dry, but OK. (remember I am still on zero testosterone, I'm hoping things will improve in the coming months)
I would say I am happy with the treatment I have had, I think if I had RP which would almost certainly be non nerve sparing, I would have regretted it.
One advantage of RP is that post treatment monitoring, if psa is not zero, you've still got cancer; so they can put you through some more unpleasant treatments. Whereas with RT until psa >2 the assumption is you haven't got cancer (even though you may have).
I would say my character is phlegmatic as are several posters on this forum. I am not that bothered that my life expectancy is now 70 rather than 85 as it was before diagnosis. If you are an anxious person then this disease is probably hell.
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See Lyn's post below for clarification on following paragraph
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So I would say, make a decision about side effects and which are the least bad. If the oncologists are recommending that treatment go for it, if not then... I don't know, I was not in that position.
If you have anxiety problems (which is quite normal after a cancer diagnosis) , try and manage them, that will make a big change to your quality of life.
Edited by member 28 Apr 2020 at 00:43
| Reason: To refer to Lyn's later post about treatment decision.