Hi, You've cleared up a few points in the replies. As I wrote above it took me nearly 3yrs to buy a pump. After only a few uses it seemed like it had kick started certain things. One was that my erection was only the bottom half of my penis. The pump seemed to waken up the upper the half after just a few uses. The other was it seemed longer when not erected after I used the pump. I'm sure it's no different now to what it was before although it was around half inch less initially, one prostate smaller. There is no reason an erect penis should be smaller except for the strength of the nerves, I don't think.
When I stand up I can get a full erection without the pump but if I lie on my back I don't get a peep without the pump although it feels like it's trying to. I've found as I get older, now 71, my peaks are no-where near as high. In fact it's like it no longer wants to peak and the effect is in my brain rather than physical. That might be wrong though.
Also I found, and still do, that if I get aroused I leak at the initial stimulus. It doesn't happen after that. Not too much but it's there. Just after the op it happened in he street a couple of times when I saw an attractive lady. It doesn't happen in the street any more. Also it's never happened at the climax like you reported.
As a last point I've been very poor at doing Kegels or any kind of exercise for leaking or ED. I only took 2 Cialis and decided I didn't like little pains it gave. I haven't tried very hard and always thought it would get better in its own time. After 3.5yrs I'm thinking it isn't going to get much better but I lasted that long without a problem so I'll just carry on.