Sue
Might be worth Joining the Zoom meeting as Andy suggested, We may be lucky and find someone who understands the issues. Although probably too late for me there may be some useful info for your husband. From previous exchanges you know I started off with the same issues as your OH.
You could try the radiology late effects team and push them into doing something. My late effects team were sympathetic but blamed surgery and urology blamed radiology.
Is he self catheterising to release urine or to help keep the stricture open, if only weekly I suspect the latter ? I did find that the less intermittent self catheterising I did the better my continence was. It is easy to damage the lower sphincter and or urethra when pushing the Catheter in , I felt little or no discomfort when self catheterising. I even had a full dilation with no pain relief and not a great experience but would do it again if required. It is important to be gentle.
Even after incision into the scar tissue I still managed to regain my continence. Is he still doing PFEs , quite a few guys mention that their continence gets worse, then improves when they restart PFEs.
Reconstruction surgery to the Urethra is possible but only a few surgeons are recommended, and an artificial sphincter is also possible provided he doesn't lose too much bladder capacity.
Retention and incontinence in the same day, I don't think I ever had that experience , I did get retention 12 hours after a dilatation mainly because the surgeon didn't think a Catheter was required, could have been caused by trauma to the sphincter. A puncture in the Urethra did cause alot of swelling as urine got into the soft tissue.
They perhaps seem unhelpful because they don't understand the problem. Pelvic radiation damage is not that common and I found getting the right help almost impossible. I think I mentioned it before the only treatment that came up was hyperbaric oxygen treatment but I think mine was too little too late.
Hopefully for your OH the radiation damage is not too severe. I was passing some large blood clots and string like blood clots also funnel shaped skin like debris. My bladder capacity reduced due to the damage, difficult to measure with incontinence but do you know what his capacity is.
If you need the names of the consultants I mentioned before I will PM them again.
My situation now is, a Catheter for life, my surgeon is reluctant to remove the bladder and form a conduit from the bowel due to possible RT damage to tissue. He said if he were to do it he would need my Prostate surgeon and they will have to have three Weetabix for breakfast. I can't hold enough urine to fill a sample bottle.
Any more questions ask away, see you at the Zoom meeting.
Thanks Chris