I am 2 years post RP. I had very similar diagnosis to yours.
I used the toolkit to educate myself.
What I found is a lot of my friends have had prostate cancer and so got some very useful insights. Btw it’s can be a real conversation killer at a dinner party hence why many chaps don’t openly discuss.
I was extremely lucky to be in SW London and in the catchment area of the marsden. I was frustrated because the experts wouldn’t make the decision for me. I went for RP because I was ‘young’ and fit, the quality (track record) of my NHS surgeons, HT was a real worry to me (many of my mates said it’s hard work) and in my gut I just wanted it gone.
For me the surgery was a doddle, easy.
Biggest shock happen at 6 week review of histology - I was T3B Gleason 9 - surgeon said my cancer was far more aggressive than normal and what he expected, he changed my prognosis. It certainly was not trivial. I had a very close shave, he told me based on the histology if I had delayed by 6 mths I could have had metastasis into the lymph nodes (he took 23 out and all negative). This made me focus real hard on doing everything right.
6 months post surgery my life was almost normal except ED. I was told I had partial nerve sparing but no action at all. Doc said be patient and put me on Ciallis and a pump.
After 12 months noticeable ED improvement, but still a long way from meaningful.
At 2 years post RP I can now have penetrative sex. I have also undetectable PSA count on every review - next week will be my 2 year result then I am only yearly testing at GP (assuming another undetectable). So in the end I am happy with my decision, no regrets. My life could not be better. I owe a lot to my surgeon.
My key advice: use the tools available to you, use the doctors and nurses to address questions (be careful of the internet), involve your partner to understand what’s going to happen to you, prepare yourself mentally and get physically fit before whatever treatment.
Good luck whatever your choice.