I am a 61 year old who thought he was reasonably fit and active. A routine blood test showed some liver issues that my GP called me into the surgery to discuss. I had no issues he could see other than a bad back that had been causing me issues for a few weeks, i had put it down to bad posture whilst working from home but not that bad that it had stopped me cutting and filling a shed full of wood for the winter that same day .
He decided to send me for a CT scan and do some more bloods. That same evening I received a call from the same GP. I was out with my 13yo daughter in a field with her horse.
Are you at home he asked, I replied i was not but outside and free to talk. He came straight to the point "I have some bad news you have cancer and its spread to your bones", he said.
I was as you can imagine shocked and lost for words but pulled myself together for the sake of my daughter.
The next four weeks have been hell. scans, a visit to DR drain-rod (as i dis-affectionally call him) and finally a visit yesterday with the oncologist, where I finally got some answers.
I tried to keep away from the internet over those weeks . I spent times with hope and others where I wondered if I would see another Christmas, no one seemed to want to tell me anything.
So now I know I had a PSA score of 82, my CT showed nothing but some fatty residue on my liver but the bone scan shows multiple metastases legs, shoulders, spine pelvis and god knows where else. I have been told it is un-curable but treatable
I still feel fit and well (but every twinge now is a worry) I have started immediately on Hormone therapy with Bicalultamide with an injection to follow in a couple of weeks.
I dont know what to expect in the future, I think of a new question every few minutes, I have been given support numbers at the hospital and told to ring at anytime by some reassuring nurses but I am still trying to get my head around things I suppose writing this on here is another way of accepting things.
My other problem is my daughter who is on the Autistic scale, we do not want to tell her unless we can give her the answers to the thousands of questions she will demand answers to and expect us to provide immediately. She is a "daddys girl" and will not react well to the news, but she will spot any change from normal routine and want to know why.
So basically any advice, help, guidance will be appreciated.
Thanks