Originally Posted by: Online Community Member
I suspect he may have complete ED and may have lost length and girth etc through not trying to hard to fix it.
If he is on HT he may not even fancy you as such. He can’t help that. But if you really like him and want him then I’d drop him an honest letter or email etc and really show him that sex doesn’t matter and that it may evolve. Good luck
Thank you Chris.
He doesn't have complete ED however there is some loss of, mainly, length and girth. Unfortunately, when he had his treatment the woman that he was with didn't engage with him in terms of any rehabilitation or intimate relationship. This was over 7 years ago.
We had been working "remotely" on this together with some significant improvements, with him using a pump with some toys and techniques that I have talked him through.
I have done my best to research all I can and he has, I thought, been very honest in what he believes are his "issues". I understand that he thinks that he is not the sexual being that he was before but I did not know him then. He says that he is not as sensitive as before and he is worried that he will disappoint me.
He told me that he is too old for me (there are 10 years between us). He is terrified of the idea of HT that he believes is fast approaching (PSA 3.5 up from 2.5 9 months ago). He is convinced that he has too many issues that he doesn't think that I need in my life.
I reality, I choose him. Just the way he is, as I see the whole man. I want to be beside him, no matter what is around the corner because none of us knows what the future holds. I know that sounds like romantic nonsense but he is special to me.